According to my observations, there are two extreme options for responding to the finitude of existence. Some people devalue something temporary and without guarantees of stability: “What’s the point of entering into a relationship if you can’t be sure that it won’t end?!”, “There’s no point in anything, because we’re all going to die someday!” Such thoughts often accompany high anxiety, depression, and burning jealousy. At the other pole are those who say the opposite: “I don’t know what will happen next, so I want to enjoy the moment,” “We are in a special period in the relationship, which can do more.” not to happen again, so I want to live it slowly.” Such people value life very much and see deep meaning in it precisely because it is finite. They are a little reminiscent of the little train from Romashkovo (this is a Soviet cartoon from 1967). Here is a quote: Passenger: This is a disgrace! What a disgrace? We'll be late for the station! Engine: Yes, well... But if we don't see the first lilies of the valley, then we'll be late for the whole spring! Passenger boy: He's here! Here it is. Engine: Quiet. Quiet. Passenger: Well, what is this? We'll be completely late! Engine: Yes. But if we don’t hear the first nightingales, then we will be late for the whole summer! Passenger: Why are we standing now? Engine: Dawn!.. every sunrise is unique in life! Passenger: It’s time to go. After all, we will be late. Engine: Yes. But if we don’t see the dawn, we may be late for the rest of our lives! I noticed that those who are prone to devaluing their life experience have difficulties in the area of ​​attachment. They had problematic parents who were unable to form stable emotional bonds. For example, due to alcoholism or simply leaving the child with the grandmother for a long time, while they themselves went to work. Perhaps the underlying fear is a deep fear of abandonment - a terrible feeling that a child once had to endure in childhood. As adults, such people are looking for something “undying” and only agree to this and, of course, rarely find it... However, a similar “philosophy” can be observed with an apparently prosperous family upbringing, or with overprotection, when obsessive-compulsive character traits are formed with expressed romantic desire for the “eternal and pure.” Here an additional requirement of pure relationships, a clear conscience, ideal things that are placed in a real and internal “frame”, “box”, “box” is already mixed in. Instead of living the moment, it is mummified. After all, everything beautiful must be preserved and nothing can be forgotten. Such people love to sort through photographs, re-read letters, and accumulate. Who else has noticed such types? How else could you explain such differences??