There was a breakup in the relationship. A reasonable question arises: how to get out of them completely and with the least losses? In our society, ways to get away/distracted/forget yourself or knock out a wedge with a wedge are welcomed. I want to cut off, separate from myself this connecting thread once and for all. Out of sight, out of mind. But, unfortunately, these methods give only a temporary effect. The anesthesia wears off and hello again, pain. There is pain and there is no need to suppress it. This is a deliberately losing strategy that only prolongs the recovery process. People come to me who are already quite exhausted from such stretching. That’s what they say: “I dream that it will be released!” And during this period there is no need to “keep your face.” Vice versa! Open expression of feelings is encouraged. Talk it out, cry, get angry. After all, so many grievances and claims have accumulated inside! And also suppressed anger and unspoken words. At the moment of ending a relationship, it is important to deal with this burden, free yourself and not drag it with you into the next relationship. Feelings do not make us weak. They make us alive! Often, allowing ourselves to live through this painful experience without turning away from it is enough to perk up our spirits again. Sometimes we get stuck and then we go in search of the part that still holds the invisible connection and suffers from it. The following can interfere with the natural process of living through a breakup and keep you in a relationship that has ended in fact: unresolved grievances and unexpressed anger; emotional investments. The more we invest in a relationship, the harder it is to leave. A person becomes dear to us in the literal and figurative sense of the word. It is important to take the investment back and restore the balance. Sometimes a person gives parts of his soul or even all of himself to another, and after parting he feels completely lost; the expectations and hopes that we cherished were deceived. It can be difficult to say goodbye to them, especially if they were also reinforced by the partner with promises they once made. A kind of advance. “We are together forever. I will always be with you. Soon we will get married and have children." Sweet words of love that later turn into painful memories. All this can serve as an illusory, false support. Saying goodbye to her is painful, but this is what gives you a feeling of freedom. The image of the partner is released, the thread is untied, like a kind of farewell ceremony. I write more about relationships and more in my tg channel https://t.me/effectBabochki11