With depression, the conflict between the reaction to the loss of a significant object and regression to the narcissistic (egoistic core of the personality) can take such a pathological form in which suffering itself becomes pleasure, in this “zone pleasure" the self is devastated. Depression is a complex mental state. It requires attention from both a specialist and loved ones. So what should you do if one of your friends or loved ones is depressed? First, make sure that they attend sessions with a psychotherapist on time. Help me find a specialist, if he doesn’t have one. Secondly, be patient, try to visit the victim of depression as often as possible. It will take quite a lot of mental strength and time to overcome the illness. Thirdly, talk to the person in this state. Let him know that you care about him and are always ready to help. Let him talk. Well, if you discuss his condition, then only rely on scientific sources. Fourth, remain optimistic and report on what previously interested him. Offer to go on trips together, even if it’s grocery shopping, walks at least around the house, watching movies or reading books, listening to music, etc. Fifth, don’t let a person with depression out of your sight, regular visits are advisable, call him on the phone or contact him via the Internet. It is harmful for such people to be isolated. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.