Growing-up crises are periods when a sharp leap in development occurs: in a short period of time, the child moves to a new level, masters new skills and abilities, and noticeable shifts in mental development are observed. One of the most important Children experience complex crises between the ages of 2.5 and 4 years. It is this period that is called the three-year crisis. The three-year crisis manifests itself in the fact that the child begins to perceive himself as a separate person, to become aware of his own “I.” Accordingly, he tries to test the boundaries of what is permitted. A child during this crisis is characterized by the following behavioral characteristics:• independence - the child wants to feel like an adult, so he must do everything himself: get dressed, put on shoes, go down the stairs, cross the road not with his hands, but with his own feet, from his point of view, no one else has the right, for example, to press a button in an elevator or turn on the light; • self-will - the desire to go against parents; • despotism - a child tries to manipulate his parents, force them to fulfill his wishes, resorting to any methods, including public hysterics; • stubbornness - the child insists on his own to the last, even if he himself has already realized that he does not need it; • devaluation - the child can call or hit his parents. At this time, the baby is in a constant state of protest, strives to do everything the other way around, not as he wants they say, but in their own way. Communicating with a child during a crisis is extremely difficult, since his behavior exhausts even the most balanced and calm parents. How to behave with a child during a three-year-old crisis. We will give some recommendations: 1. Be patient and be prepared to communicate with your child in a calm, quiet and even voice, even if he is crying and hysterical. This is the only way you can smooth out the conflict, so you will have to learn to restrain your own emotions.2. Encourage expressions of independence. This not only helps to avoid conflicts, but also helps the child quickly consolidate simple everyday skills. Let your child dress, put on his shoes, choose what fairy tale to read, what clothes to wear today, or what toy to buy. Give him a choice from several options that will suit you equally. This is the easiest way to find a compromise. If a child insists on doing something on his own that he definitely won’t be able to do, don’t dissuade him. If the action is safe, let him try it. After a few tries, he will calm down and let you do what you need to do.3. Convey to your child that not all of his wishes can be fulfilled, and explain why. Do not be fooled by screams and hysterics: if the child understands that they do not bring the desired result, sooner or later he will stop using such methods of manipulation.4. Set a set of rules that cannot be broken under any circumstances, and never make exceptions. The child must clearly understand where the boundaries between “possible” and “impossible” are. Otherwise, in the future it will be extremely difficult for parents to justify any prohibitions. Love your children!