Conflict is an inevitable, natural part of any relationship. All people, all partners quarrel, this is an axiom. But what can we do to reduce the number of conflicts in a couple? What needs to change first for change to happen? That's right, thinking. It all starts with him. In other words, the way we think and what we think towards our partner is the answer to reduce the number of arguments with him. This method is one of the best for establishing respectful, healthy and trusting relationships. You and your partner are in a relationship, you are one whole, a team. Relationships are not a struggle, not a competition, and not a competition, where one is right and the other is behind. You win together when you have a common goal and you feel like a team and a couple, the best couple. Sometimes it seems to us that our partners are deliberately doing something to piss us off, deliberately ignoring our feelings and requests. We try with all our might to see only our point of view, without seeing another at this time. To begin to change something is to remind ourselves that our partner is our loved one who loves us and cares about us, even if sometimes something that he does or how he behaves upsets us. But the partner does not have the goal of hurting us or making us feel bad, in fact, on the contrary, his goal is the same as ours, positive - for us to be happy. That is, the goal of change is the ability to see another, feel him, understand him, see the picture more whole, objective, and after that find a compromise, a solution and an agreement. When we are in the moment of a quarrel, it can be very difficult to do this. Here are some questions that may help ease:1. Put yourself in your partner's shoes. How do you feel in his place? What did you want to get from this dialogue? 2. Do you think your partner hurt you on purpose? if yes, why?3. Remember why you chose your partner in the first place. What did you fall in love with? Did you like his kindness, intelligence, sense of humor? When we fall in love, we see good people, try to remember this and it may help you.4. Remember if you have grievances against your partner. Try not to accumulate them on yourself, as they can affect your relationships. And remember that you are a team, you have a common goal and you want to see the situation wider and deeper, you want to improve your relationships.