FIVE FAILED SUPPORT MISTAKES “Everything will be fine”, “Don’t be upset”, “It’s not the end of the world”, “I told you so” - this is NOT support! But there is also no universal formula suitable for any case. But there is things that definitely should NOT be done, because they do not help in any way and are not support. In detail, what should not be said 👇 5 support mistakes: 1. Empty promises - better hug.2. Ban on emotions - give the opportunity to tell and experience emotions.3. Devaluing other people's problems - show the importance of the person and his situation.4. Useless advice - just listen.5. Evaluative comments - show active participation. What will be support 👇If you don’t know what to say, be silent, be close and hug. You will be surprised, but one of the most effective ways of support is warm, friendly hugs and simple words of sympathy (“I’m so sorry”, “I feel for you so much”). We don’t turn to friends and family when we want to look mature, smart and strong , and then when we just want to be ourselves, without pretending to be anything. Therefore, if you want to support or console someone, give them the opportunity to talk about their experiences. Any person with a problem urgently needs to speak out and be heard first of all. The best way to support a close friend or loved one is to simply be there, listen carefully, hug carefully and warmly. Do not evaluate or devalue, do not interrupt with your comments, do not transfer to him with his own projections, conjectures and conclusions with advice. All that is needed is lively participation, kind sympathy, warmth. The opportunity to express your feelings, emotions, experiences. And real concrete help (to babysit the children, collect money, cook food), and not abstract proposals. When a person is close to someone who totally accepts him, this is therapy. Healing occurs. This is how we heal. This is how we can heal others. And how your loved ones usually support you?