From the author: For fathers, mothers, grandparents, whose families have children 2-4 years old. Continuation of the article “Should I send my child to kindergarten?” First of all, listen to the recommendations that kindergarten teachers offer you: most often, there is already a system for adapting children to the conditions and regime of a preschool institution. In addition, it is the teachers who see the child’s reactions and behavior throughout his entire stay in the kindergarten, and not just at the moment of separation. If you have any doubts, discuss them with the teacher. What can you, parents, do to make the separation process as smooth as possible for your child? Remember that starting kindergarten is a completely new experience for your child, because he has never Previously, I had never had to stay for a long time with strangers (and maybe this was the first time I had to stay without my mother). And the new is not only interesting and unknown, but also frightening, incomprehensible, confusing for the little man. Therefore, it is necessary to explain to him as clearly and clearly as possible, in a language understandable to the baby, what, when, how and in what sequence will happen in the nursery kindergarten from the moment you get up until the moment you leave the group. In addition, it is important to explain to the child not only what will happen to him in kindergarten, but also what the parents will be doing during their absence. Often children worry about their mother precisely about where she goes and what happens to her when she is not around. Another important point in a child’s adaptation to kindergarten is the readiness of the parents (and above all, of course, the mother) to part with with your baby. This is perhaps a more important condition than even the readiness of the child himself to attend preschool. That is, if for some reason a mother wants to stay at home with her son or daughter, and she anxiously and painfully counts the minutes until she meets him, then adaptation will most likely be delayed and will be more difficult. Therefore, I want to emphasize once again, that any emotions of the mother about kindergarten or the moment of separation are immediately transferred to the baby. And if the mother is worried, then most often the child will be worried too. And this means that you need to pull yourself together and try to cope with your emotions. This does not mean that you should stop feeling anything at all. Just try to make your emotions and feelings understandable not only for yourself, but also for the child. What can you do to make the moment of separation less difficult? A few simple tips and phrases that can be used when communicating with your child at the moment of separation: Try to explain to the child what exactly is happening to him at the moment. Say, for example: “Yes, I see that you are very upset now, you are crying. You don't want to part with me. You want to go home with me. You don’t want to stay here without me” (etc. depending on the situation). Don’t rush to say the words, take a lot of pauses. You shouldn’t immediately offer any solutions (for example, say: “you’ll stay here for a little while, you’ll play here with the kids, it’ll be a lot of fun, I’ll come very soon, and after kindergarten we’ll let’s go with you...", etc.). Be patient and persistent. Don’t expect that after 2-3 phrases the child will immediately calm down and run cheerfully into the group. Perhaps even after half an hour he will still cry, and even come into the group crying. The time it takes to process the emotions of sadness and separation varies from child to child. Be prepared for this. Show your child an example of control over yourself and your emotions. When (or if) the child calms down a little and is able to hear you, tell him what you will do when you leave kindergarten. For example: “Now I’ll go to work (to the store, to Aunt Katya’s, etc.) and I’ll be there…. It will be very interesting and fun for me. And I will be waiting to meet you. And when I come back for you, you’ll tell me how interesting it was and what you did while I was away.” Be present.