Were you surprised to see such a proposal from a psychologist?) Usually we psychologists tell a person that he can only change himself and from this point we begin to work with him. I will not cancel this postulate. Although there is another possibility, I’ll write about this in another post “How to change yourself” :) And now let’s think about our human connection and the possibilities of properly influencing each other. Life is a constant development, and it makes the same demands on all living things . A person can and must change, otherwise he will suffer. And to change not in properties and personal qualities, but in how to use them in relation to other people. We can help others change, open up opportunities for change for them. By presenting a person in the best form in which I want to see him, and By telling him about this, I give him the opportunity to be like this. In the previous note “Today's Resource” I promised to talk about how to correctly use the desires “I want him/her...”. Let me remind you once again about an important rule, the law of nature - everything that is good and useful in a person. You just need to learn how to use it correctly. So, from morning to night, we periodically have desires to change other people. You need to use such a huge resource, you just need to learn how to do it correctly. How? Let’s do the exercise and we’ll understand :) We take a sheet of paper, divide it into two parts. On the left side of the sheet we write the title “I want him/her.” We finally write everything we want from others! Have a blast :) Now we write the title on the right side - “Opening Opportunities”. Here we need to explain what “open opportunities” means. Understand what our opportunity is. We have only one opportunity - to build the right relationships with other people: relationships that are kind, understanding, accepting, caring, open. Let's return to the exercise. Write on the right side: imagine and describe the relationship with other people that a person who achieves what you want from him is in. And then we make sure to tell him or her about this as if he or she is already in such a relationship. For example: “I want…”: my husband earned more. We open up possibilities: imagine - my husband easily finds a language with other people, makes effective connections that open up great opportunities for him to earn money. Another example: “I want..” a friend to stop criticizing me. Opening up opportunities: imagine - a friend believes in the abilities of others and always supports them, and does and says everything only for the purpose of so that others become better and better. Here is an exercise. Now you can safely use the list to tell your family and friends what opportunities they have. And you will see how much they needed to hear from you right now. And how you needed to say this right now :) If suddenly your situation seems hopeless and insoluble, ask me, I will tell you the right direction) I wish you great dreams and great opportunities! And good relations :)