My main target audience is families, couples who have unresolved situations in their relationships. It seems a lot has been written about how to avoid quarrels and how to effectively resolve problems. And yet... One of the reasons for family scandals is the conflict of desires of one and the other. The girl expected one thing, the young man another. But in reality it is completely different. No one is ready to live only to satisfy the needs of even a loved one. After all, there are some of our own. But the skills to negotiate, to take into account not only one’s own interests, but also the interests of others, have not yet been developed. Important questions that are raised at almost every consultation are who should make the main decisions in the family on spending money, running a household, and raising children. The man thinks he is. The wife does not agree, since she earns no less, and even works more at home. Therefore, her voice must be taken into account in all monetary matters. Another example. The wife believes that she is in charge of raising children, since she gave birth to them. My husband doesn't agree. This is his children and decisions about upbringing should be made mutually. What do the couple have in common? And the fact is that everyone has similar needs. These are social needs. Everyone in the family unconsciously wants to be recognized as an equal, with whom they communicate, support, and care for each other. The needs for respect and recognition are also very important. Especially if they were not satisfied in the parental family. This is where conflicts sometimes arise. If in childhood you did not receive enough attention to current needs from the outside, especially from your mother, then you want to fill them through the image of your mother in your wife or husband. But she (the wife) and he (the husband) are not parents, but spouses. And they can only solve common family problems. And if this awareness takes hold, then solving family problems will be easier. Why? Yes, because a person has emerged from the state of the Inner Child and looks at the situation through the eyes of an Adult who is able to take reality into account. But the reality is that some of your personal needs and their satisfaction are in your own hands. And family situations can only be resolved through agreements. Considering the opinions of each side, calmly and balanced. But, as can be seen from experience working with couples, this comes with great difficulty. It is difficult to remain in an adult state for a long time, again transitioning to the state of either a Critical Parent, or an offended, dissatisfied Child from the past. Why am I writing this? Yes, so that there are fewer illusions that one consultation, understanding the mechanisms of how the psyche works, will immediately change your family life. It takes practice to consolidate new communication and problem-solving skills. Specific family training. It is possible to conduct relationship “therapy” (training) through a series of video consultations. A “room” is created on Skype or Telegram. You can sign up here, via PM, or on my website, available on my page.