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The fear of facing rejection is quite common. Many people are afraid that they will be alone. I have made recommendations on how you can overcome the fear of abandonment.1. Track your fear You need to know the enemy by sight. In what situations do you begin to fear that you will be abandoned? What thoughts do you have when you start to worry? How do you feel in your body? How do you get started? Each person's fear will manifest itself individually, understand how it works for you. Perhaps my article about the cycle of abandonment will help you - https://www.b17.ru/article/408013/2. Revisit past relationships Examine the partners you chose. What do they have in common? What traits do you fall for? What problems did you have with them? What went wrong? Was this person overly caring or, on the contrary, keeping you at a distance? How did you behave in relationships? Did you try to keep your partner at all costs or did you leave first? If you weren't in a relationship, how did you behave to avoid it? Once you understand the patterns, it will be easier for you to create a profile of the person who is a red flag for you. You can read about this here – https://www.b17.ru/article/408644/3. What's so bad about rejection? Understand the chain of thought you put into place when you're rejected. I can't accept being rejected because it will prove that I'm worthless, that I can't be loved, that I'll be alone and die alone/set up yours. Consider what you see as the consequences of your rejection. Maybe rejection says something about you as a person? Maybe this proves something? Maybe this is leading you to loneliness for the rest of your life? 4. Assessing the realism of thoughts. Is this really so? Does being rejected really mean that there is something wrong with your personality? Now, if you tried and were good, you wouldn’t be rejected? Is this true? An article about rejection - https://www.b17.ru/article/381566/Rejection does not say anything about your personality. Let's imagine a situation in a grocery store. There is a rack with apples and oranges. The first person comes up and buys an orange. A second person comes up and buys an orange. A third person comes up and buys an orange. And then apples: “ahh, no one loves me, I’m a worthless fruit, I didn’t try hard, no one will ever buy me again, no one needs me, oranges are better than me, God, I’m disgusting, you can’t love me.” Why do you even? decided that your personality is bad just because they don’t choose you? Everyone has different tastes, some like oranges, some like apples. Just because a person bought an orange does not make the apple any worse. So why is this so in your logic? Why, according to your logic, if you were not chosen, does this mean that you are bad? The second point is that I will be left alone and die alone. Is it true? There are 8 billion people on planet earth; you have to try hard to be alone. To be isolated from the world, you need to be a very specific person. First, you will have to refuse any work. Who pays you money? Another man. Accordingly, if you work, you interact with people in one way or another. You will have to give up shopping. Even delivery by courier forces you to interact with a person. You will also have to give up an apartment or house connected to the infrastructure. You will have to pay for water, electricity, and house maintenance. Plus there are neighbors. Approximately what image emerges. A hermit living in the forest, living in a hut made of branches and sticks, eating what nature provides, without the Internet, without connections with the outside world. It is you? So why the hell do you think you'll be left alone?5. Developing communication skills Very often, a person who is afraid of rejection lacks communication skills. He is afraid of losing a loved one, because in this case he will not be able to build a relationship simply because he does not know how. Therefore, you need to learn to communicate with other people. Develop skills: familiarity, ability.