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Working with a person’s traumatic experience is a very difficult job, requiring a lot from each participant - authenticity, honesty, courage, hope, faith, interest, empathy, complicity, strength, endurance, patience, work... a lot. Often this experience of healing is associated with experiencing pain. And everyone who goes through this journey one day asks: How will I know that I have already overcome the trauma? Is there something that I can focus on in overcoming this? And yes, everyone has their own individual path, so different that it differs like the desert from the taiga... But there are common factors, so, details that will show that you are on the path to recovery :You start to trust yourself more. Trust more in your sensations, feelings, experiences, thoughts and the decisions you came to as a result of this. You begin to openly admit it, talk to yourself and others. A person stops devaluing himself and comparing himself with those who were worse off than him. He begins to focus on himself, that is, a healthy, well, albeit with excesses, egoism is developed. This is important. You become less touchy. You no longer have, or have significantly fewer, any super-expectations from other people and from yourself. Do you begin to respect the limitations and boundaries of yourself and others, and therefore the category of justice becomes very, very real for embodiment, or do you become more merciful for yourself and others or what? And therefore, the endless internal dialogue that you have been conducting so far with others, proving to someone that you are right, in what and how you are right...You don’t need this anymore) It becomes increasingly easier for you to name and acknowledge your feelings, allow yourself to respect them, follow them, so that each of them leads you to your value, and see how you take care of your value in your everyday life, in its ordinariness, in the little things, and yes, it’s you, not someone else. And over and over again, you find new healthy ways to protect, strengthen, live, celebrate these values ​​of yours, and trust yourself even more in this. You notice that it becomes easier to ask for help, recognizing your powerlessness or confusion, your weakness and vulnerability to another . Recognizing something similar in another. And therefore you are not afraid to look like this, because - this is not about all of you! You already know that this is only a temporary phenomenon and all you need is the hand of another, his gaze, his opinion, as a support for your own push and step. At this step, you begin to see the other better - not only his condemned shadow, but also his kindness and mercy that stretches out his hand to you, his some completely normal human desire for the other person to be happy. After all, the more happy people in the world, the more kindness, tenderness, mercy and this very world there is in the world. What next? Considering the trinity or what a person has: physicality, soulfulness, and spirituality, and with these three dimensions he somehow realizes himself in society, then they somehow extend to all these levels, and this causes a chain reaction that stimulates improvement in all other areas of life. Then a person suddenly realizes that he has the strength to do exercises in the morning, he stops having nightmares, he is able to apply for a Grand, come to his father’s grave, look at family photos, come and visit his relative... A person recognizes and already knows by sight its triggers, what provokes it. For each of us, these are very different things - for some, a feeling of humiliation and devaluation when compared; for someone, fear and shame when they are shouted at and threatened; for someone, guilt, abandonment and abandonment…. Here everyone returns to their childhood pain point... This is about the fact that the recovering person will know his triggers in person and be able to deal with them with one degree or another of freedom from the current life situation) And what is the result? A person will suddenly notice that he has stopped eating so much sweets, or playing cards, or shopping!