Have you ever had the feeling of being “stuck” into something unpleasant? What do you owe a person something to give, to do, to forgive, to give in to? The feeling inside is disgusting, disgusting. When communicating, you feel anger or irritation, which you don’t seem to have the right to express. As a result, you agree and do what you did not plan. Very often we are persuaded to make a choice that is not in our favor with such judgments: - If you agree, I will do something good, if not, I will punish you. - If you agree, then you will feel good, because this is what happens in such cases. - You owe me for past services. - You will respect yourself for this. - I really need this service, do it for me (an attempt to evoke altruistic impulses) - People dear to you will think well of you if you follow this. - It is immoral to disagree. - A good person will agree with this. If you catch yourself in these emotions and hear such ideas in a conversation, then they are trying to manipulate you. They also included some actions here. For example, before a person asks you for anything, he treats you extremely politely. Or gives you something. No matter what it is, the gift may not be related to the subsequent conversation. Thus giving you a sense of duty. Remember, manipulation is the desire of the interlocutor to influence you, using you for his own purposes without your consent. This process itself is hidden. How to resist manipulation? 1. Pay attention to your condition. Irritation and anger are a criterion for problems in communication, this is a signal. 2. Analyze the behavior of another: actions and words. Make sure that this is manipulation and not a failure in mutual understanding. 3. Change behavior and communication. Here are several revealing beliefs to help you: 1. A person is free to look for a solution to his problem. Nobody has the right to force him. 2. The internal perception of a problem is always different from how the situation looks from the outside. Therefore, it is not a fact that agreeing will be good for you. Quite the contrary. 3. Any generalization (everyone does it, all good people do it) is essentially false. 4. No one can force your sense of self. It is unlikely that you will lose respect for yourself or feel worse if you do not agree to manipulation. Sometimes the interaction seems harmless, but you feel out of place. This can be subtle manipulation. Here it is important to clarify what a person means, what he wants. Directness allows you to get rid of hidden messages from your interlocutor and restore order in communication.