When a baby appears in the family, from the first days it becomes clear that you cannot do without discipline with a new person. For some reason, many people associate the word “discipline” with severity, unquestioning obedience and almost a military regime. However, clear and adequate rules of everyday life can save a lot of nerves for both parents and children. The rules apply to all areas of life: from meals and walks to punishments (no, this is not about “putting in a corner” and so on, there are adequate forms of punishment - let them be sanctions, if the word “punishment” confuses you). Let’s consider: things to think about when setting boundaries for children. A parent must be consistent in his actions. Many people neglect this, and in vain. Children look at adults and copy them, since this is one of the leading types of his activity. When parents invent and change rules on the fly, there will be anarchy in the family, not discipline. Imagine that you came to work, and today one thing was possible, but tomorrow it is no longer possible, for which you were fined yesterday, today you are rewarded, etc. The same thing happens to children when parents contradict themselves. The rules should be simple. Do you like to read laws and legal documents with a bunch of footnotes/clauses/additions/subclauses, etc.? If you are not a lawyer, then 99% of you don’t like it. So there shouldn’t be such confusing and weird rules for children. And there shouldn't be many of them. Think and formulate for yourself the basic rules related to the safety of the child and the values ​​that you want to convey to him. Rules and punishments should be logical. And ideally, you need to let the child understand and evaluate the consequences of his action. For example, if a child throws a toy, then scaring him with the fact that he will be left without sweets - what is the connection? But warning him that if he breaks it, you will throw it away or not fix it - this is logical. The main thing is to really do it, and not run for glue as soon as the child cries. All rules and boundaries must correspond to the age of the child. Prohibiting a 2-3 year old child from eating sweets and then scolding him for finding and eating candy is not a rule that is appropriate for his age and level of understanding. In this case, the child is still too young to consciously control such desires. Can't have something sweet? At this age, this is completely the responsibility of the parents - do not buy it for the house at all or hide it more securely. Monitor your condition and regularly restore your internal resource - without this it will be difficult to follow any recommendations at all. Often, it is in a fit of strong emotions that adults invent new harsh rules or strict restrictions. For example, a mother is simply tired and burned out, she needs the help of another adult, but instead she shouts to the children that they can no longer sing/dance/stomp/play loudly, etc., because she simply needs silence. Each family sets its own standards and “laws” according to the needs of its members. The main thing is that an atmosphere of mutual support, acceptance, safety and love reigns in the family. Tell us, how do you set rules for your children? What is your “sanctions” system? Book a consultation: WhatsApp, Telegram +7 913 380-83-42 Skype: as3808342 Learn to manage your emotions!💪