Greetings, dear readers! There are the following types of thieves: Investigator or Critic. He has two main manifestations. He either constantly asks questions that clearly do not concern his long nose. Or he begins to criticize, omitting all our achievements and telling us how to behave better. In the Karpman triangle, this role position corresponds to the Persecutor. In Berne's system of transactional analysis, to the critical Parent. What happens to someone whose energy is siphoned off? He begins to defend himself. Feels worthless. Tries everyone to prevent a mistake so as not to disappoint the investigator. And the investigator absorbs the fear, fussiness, and anxiety of his victim. Of course, our loved ones have the right to give us valuable feedback. A distinctive feature of the Investigator is that we hear only criticism, and based on what does not correspond to the ideals of the Critic himself. This is an even more aggressive model of behavior. Blackmailer or Scarecrow. When a person intimidates another and feeds on the energy of fear. Again, the analogy with the persecutor-executioner (Karpman) and the punishing parent (Bern). Moreover, the blackmailer often considers himself a good soul. After all, he is trying to “reason” with the other. The threat can come directly from him - “if you don’t listen to me, I won’t give you money” Or from the whole world at once - “you won’t have children”, “you will get cancer”, etc. Of course, our loved ones have the right to warn. But for a warning, one time is enough (well, a maximum of three, as in fairy tales). And if the Blackmailer constantly scares us, then we are very tasty to him. The other two role models are passive. For example Poor thing. This is the one who always complains to everyone, constantly demands attention to himself and leaves voice messages for 10 minutes about how hard it is for him. In Karpman’s triangle he corresponds to the victim. Bern’s is an unhappy child. He steals energy by constantly demanding attention. in the form of pity. After communicating with such people, you feel empty and sticky, although it seems like you did a good deed - listened and helped... Sometimes each of us finds ourselves in the position of a child, where it is so important for a loved one to blow on the wound. But if we are always in this position, easily fall into tears and consider the world unfair and evil, then this is a sure bell that through our accusations we “eat” others. And the last role is Closed. It manifests itself like this: a person will be proudly silent, to everyone showing by appearance that he feels bad. He withdraws into himself as if in a jar. But the jar is transparent, everyone around sees that he feels bad, asks, tries to help. But the person does not answer, is silent, turns away. And he also feeds on the energy of attention. Refuses it , and thereby receives it even more. Because other people begin to wonder - what’s wrong with you? Who offended you? Or even worse - let's talk, clear out the conflict? And in response there is deathly silence.. Living through our problems without involving others is the position of an Adult. But then it is desirable that others do not know that we have problems. Otherwise, we create the image of a lonely and offended hero. I invite you to exchange opinions on this information. Readers, should I share with you the meditations and practices that I use in my consultations? I am a psychologist, a specialist in psychosomatic therapy and German New Medicine, a regressologist, an expert in working with the subconscious, NLP, EOT, I know hypnosis. I work with feelings, emotions, beliefs and more. More details on the website: https://old-stocks.ru