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Recently, in my educational and therapeutic work, I have come across an interesting observation: ❗many adults very often need permission to start acting. I also regularly notice this in myself. Just think about it: we earn our own money for a living, we feed ourselves and our families, we bear responsibility, we sometimes even go to the polls. But at the same time, sometimes, without receiving permission, we cannot do something important, something that we want to do. 💁♂️For example:• get closer to someone, find out more about the person, offer your communication• be honest about how you feel and what you want• decide on a new business, a new project• stop, stop running somewhere• relax , be weak • substitute your own option The mechanics are clear: in childhood, in order to get or do many things, you first had to get the support or permission of your parents, or another adult figure. And some things were prohibited in principle (each family has its own). ⛔️So, the insidiousness of the situation is that, having acquired the habit of asking permission for some actions as a child, as an adult it will be very difficult for you to admit the idea that now these things can simply be done, without any permission. Such an option simply will not exist for you. Well, the most important horror of the situation: even though you are waiting for someone to give you permission, no one will ever come on purpose and do this. Well, that is, imagine: another adult comes to you and says: “Okay, that’s it, now you can be more frank, go for it.” And you're like, “Okay, finally.” Hardly. 🧞♂️There are a lot of those who are waiting for permission. There are many who would be happy to prohibit someone from doing something. But there are practically no people who want to allow you anything. 😕What to do? I saw several options, I use some myself: 1️⃣ Check: is this the permission you need or do you just want support? If you need support, then directly ask for it from the person you want to receive it from. 2️⃣ Give yourself permission (there are wonderful techniques for dialogue between the desiring part and the allowing part). 3️⃣ Imagine what this permission might sound like and imagine that you are receiving it.. .4️⃣ Find out about the experience of another person who is already doing this: who gave him permission? 5️⃣ In the end, get this very permission from someone. If such a person exists. Just ask. Sometimes this also works. Unfortunately, some internal prohibitions can be very strong, sitting deep in memory and personality, and then this is a possible topic for working with a psychologist. And what do you need permission for??