How can I force myself to tone up and start changing something? I divided your request into three main parts. The first part: “Laziness, lack of desires, initiative, irritation, depression, drowsiness, powerlessness. Hopelessness.” The second part: “Dependence on mothers, fear of responsibility to mother, dissatisfaction with excessive control, conflict” Third part: “Misunderstanding and, as a result, irritation in relationships with a young man” Let’s start over. Laziness is a lack of motivation or fatigue. Everything else is a consequence - a reaction to the fact that you cannot overcome laziness. What to do? 1) Laziness as a lack of motivation. Decide why you are studying at this particular university, what you want to get out of it and what you will do with it. If you are not inspired by such studies at the initial stage, then it will only become more difficult. Answer yourself: What exactly doesn’t suit you? Where would you like to study? What to do? What will you get from this study? You need to analyze and draw conclusions for yourself. Then write a list of activities necessary to implement your plan. 2) If laziness is the result of fatigue, and fatigue is not only physical, but also moral and psychological - you need to rest, gain strength strength, recover. There are many ways of rehabilitation. Most likely, your condition was provoked by both of these reasons. 2. Next, Relationships with Mom. It is very difficult for mothers to let go of their children, it is difficult to transfer responsibility and the right to make decisions. You need to decide for yourself whether you are an adult or not yet. An adult differs from a child in that he takes responsibility for himself, for his actions, actions, safety, etc. to myself. He decides for himself and is responsible for everything. If you consider yourself an adult, then say thank you very much to your mother and explain that you have grown up and she no longer has to worry about you. Just say all this not with a claim, challenge, reproach or irritation, but calmly, constructively presenting your decision. Of course, this will not work right away, but step by step, you will be able to defend your sovereignty. 2. And finally, polo - role-playing relationships. You are not happy with yourself - you are not happy with him, you don’t like yourself - he’s annoying, you don’t like the way he looks, you’re not happy in your soul - you’re finding fault that he’s behaving somehow wrong , there is no inner peace, no certainty - you make unreasonable demands on him... But he is alive, he also has his own problems and experiences, he defends himself. A conflict arises. Being in a relationship means sharing, trying to understand the other and talking about your own, opening up yourself and gradually revealing a loved one. All this is not done in one day, of course. But believe me: “If there is an entrance, then there is definitely a way out.” Psychological problems are solved gradually, like studying at school, for example, from class to class, the older you get, the more difficult it is. But if there is a desire, an understanding of the need for change, and diligence, then all problems can be solved. There are specially trained people who help in solving many life crisis or dead-end situations, psychologists. Contact us.