From the author: On the issue of legalizing resistance in life and psychological practice... Many people spend a lot of effort to develop socially desirable qualities in themselves: kindness, empathy, caring, flexible thinking, etc. d. As a result of this, they become in demand and sooner or later even redundant. At the same time, they get money and recognition, but they stop enjoying work and life. In this regard, I believe that psychologists and other people, along with positive qualities, should develop negative (socially undesirable) ones. These are qualities such as laziness, irritability, resentment, fear, the ability to avoid, isolate, loneliness, openly express dissatisfaction, the ability to refuse, etc. As a result, the so-called negative qualities can significantly help us in organizing our own safety and comfort (there are fewer people around, and only those who are ready to deal with you in different ways remain). Naturally, everything is good when in moderation. PS: In any case, any satisfying contact is not possible without living in the safety phase, orientation during which many fears of resistance, separating oneself from the outside world help to find oneself and enter into contact full of strength and understanding What I need. Thank you for your attention.