Now everyone is shouting with each other that no one owes anyone anything. I noticed that those who shout about this especially loudly are those who don’t really want to enter into a really close and trusting relationship with someone else. That is, such a person, even if he starts some kind of relationship, immediately “from the doorstep” declares that they say, remember, “I don’t owe you anything.” And therefore, it is not at all surprising that such relationships cannot develop into truly warm, sincere and long-term ones. Of course, love is not about “should”, it is, first of all, about “want”: I want to make you happy, I want to help you and support in difficult situations, I want to be only with you, because I don’t need anyone else. And this choice is made consciously and voluntarily. And if they tell you straight up that “they don’t owe you anything,” then what kind of feelings and desires to make each other’s lives better can we talk about? That's right - we're not talking about anything like that, well, at least, certainly not about love. After all, love is about something else: about the efforts that you happily make for each other, about mutual assistance and the desire to please your partner - be it some nice gift or just a compliment from the heart. And when they say that “they don’t owe you anything,” then we are more likely talking about selfishness, especially if the one who declares this wants or even demands fidelity from his partner , care, attention, etc. That is, a person gives himself permission to want this from others, but at the same time he himself does nothing. After all, for himself and his behavior he has a motto “I don’t owe you anything,” from which he bases his actions, or rather inaction, towards his partner. But this is very sad and painful for someone who agrees to such a relationship and puts all his soul and strength into it in the hope that they will also begin to reciprocate. Therefore, well, for the life of me, I can’t believe that a relationship where “no one owes anyone anything” are filled with love, respect and warmth for each other. After all, in such a relationship, you can be cheated on, betrayed, put on your ears at any moment, or just silently pack up your things and disappear in an unknown direction, because no one owes anyone anything, right...? No, of course, I understand that, for example, by and large, no one is immune from betrayal, but if they immediately tell you that this can happen in your relationship, because “I don’t owe you anything,” then it becomes somehow very disgusting and even disgusting in your soul .Also, often those who say this are simply afraid of being used, so they will not make any efforts for their partner and this relationship, because their fear is too great. In addition, there may also be a fear of really sincerely falling in love, because such a person he is afraid that just then they will begin to use him and, so to speak, “twist ropes out of him.” That is why he does not want to deepen his relationship or is completely limited to short-term and meaningless novels. After all, it is much simpler, and there is less risk - there is no need to open up and let someone into your heart and inner world, there are no responsibilities and duties . Good! And if something suddenly doesn’t suit you anymore, then you can easily change your partner for another and that’s it. In a word, not life, but just a fairy tale where no one owes anyone anything... The choice, of course, is entirely yours, but if you want to build a truly happy, harmonious and full of love and respect relationship, then think carefully before entering into into this relationship with a person who lives with the attitude “I don’t owe anything to anyone and, of course, you too.” Take care of yourself) If this article was useful and interesting for you, do not forget to click “thank you” - it’s not difficult for you, but I’m pleased ) Sincerely, your psychologist, Victoria Kirsta