There are many incidental moments in life that can greatly disturb you. For example, how to refuse a person on some issue if you want to maintain a good relationship with him in the future? This article will help you solve this difficult matter! You may be afraid to say “no” for fear of upsetting the person. Sometimes we just don't want to say no because we're afraid of how the other person will react. It's scary to think that a person will stop appreciating you or start doubting you. However, saying “no” can sometimes be the most beneficial and best thing you can do! If this person truly respects you, they will be able to understand your choice. Keep in mind that your time is extremely valuable. Learn to guard it and save it for what you really want to do. When you say no to something you don't really want to do, you give yourself the freedom to spend your time doing the things you truly love and want. People will always appreciate those people who are straightforward and decisive in their words. Different ways to politely say “no” I welcome your suggestion, but I can't. I would love to, but I can't. Thanks for thinking about me, but I can't. No thanks, but that sounds great! Thank you, maybe another time! Phrases to say “no” when we don’t have time I’m just overwhelmed right now, so I can’t. I don't have the opportunity this month. I already have obligations, thank you. I'm busy with work right now, so I can't. Unfortunately, I can't right now, but I'll try to join you. Voice your discomfort. If a friend asks to borrow money, don't hesitate to say something like: “I don't feel comfortable lending money to people, sorry.” Say this often. The more you the more you practice, the less scary it will become. Start saying no to everything that doesn't add value to your life. Don't worry about what people will think. Often we say yes to things that aren't really a priority because you don't want people to think you're a jerk. . Guess what? Some people will still think you're a jerk, no matter how good you actually are. So stop worrying about what people think and just say no. Offer an alternative. This can be useful at work when you don't want to be mistaken for the person who says no all the time. If you're too busy to take on a specific task that you might want to do in the future, you can say something like, “I won't be able to help you this time. To be an effective leader, sometimes you have to stand your ground and say no, even if it means turning down a good suggestion or idea from a teammate. Sincerely, Your psychotherapist, coach, interpersonal relationship consultant, Ilya Akhmedov.