Sometimes a breakup lasts for months or years. You live next to a person who has long ceased to be your partner, authority, loved one, and your relationship with him has turned into a heavy burden. Not even a suitcase without a handle, but even worse. Sometimes parting goes quickly. Although both partners are sad that life together has become impossible, they are both ready to separate as soon as they understand it. Although, of course, it is never easy. How to start living again and differently, without a relationship that has ended? How to get over a breakup? A lot depends on how you broke up. A lot depends on whether you broke up only physically and were emotionally stuck in the relationship or vice versa. I will write some recommendations that can help you cope with a breakup if you really want a new one life. (if you are stuck in resistance, rushing here and there and feel bad everywhere, if alone, tears and apathy bother you, then it’s better to come for a consultation - it’s not scary and your new life will immediately become easier and clearer) So.1. If you have made a decision, then you should not remain silent and not answer calls. Get yourself together and tell him your relationship is over. Completely finished, literally. In some cases, it is better not to say anything more. Well, if only to wish “all the best” to your ex-partner. In some cases, after these words, it is better to arrange a meeting where you will sum up the results of your partnership, agree on future communication or non-communication. Take responsibility for your life. 2. You broke up. Forbid yourself, even though it’s not easy (but we’re talking about how you can break up, and not get high right now, when it hurts. Although for some, breaking up is real happiness and relief right away): - surfing his social networks, - track his movements on the phone, write him SMS about anything, talk with mutual friends about him and his life, etc. All this will not only help you feel good, but will also slow down the process of normal separation. 3. If you left him for your own home, then it’s a little easier for you. If your partner moves away from you, then it’s more difficult. After all, everything in the house reminds of him. To make it easier, be sure to do this: - his things should leave with him right away! (he doesn’t need it? Someone will definitely need it at any collection point for those in need), - rearrange and make small repairs to your liking, - throw away those things that cause nostalgia, since they are the ones who will keep you in the past - it’s a vicious circle, - delete your correspondence from your phone, which you re-read either while crying over a glass of wine, or seriously analyzing “what you did wrong, why it didn’t work out”,4. But write letters to him without sending them. Or talk about it with a psychologist. Or you can and should cry and grieve that your expectations did not come true in private. Only with restrictions! Let's say, 15-20 minutes a day, at a designated time (well, not at work), is quite good and correct. Make time for sadness, sadness, anger. Then you won't be bogged down in it 24/7. After all, these feelings are natural. But you can control them. Eco-friendly. There are many techniques to help you do just that.5. Enlist the support of like-minded people, girlfriends and friends you trust. Their help will be very helpful now. This includes conversations about your pain that will be listened to. And a distraction when you are invited to a get-together at a restaurant where you don’t want to go, but it’s useful. Yes!6. Now is the time to look at yourself, turn to yourself, be with yourself. This could be: - a return to your favorite hobby, but forgotten due to lack of time, - classes on health restoration and prevention, - a return to interests that your ex did not approved, but you missed them - taking care of your appearance and even changing your image, etc. 7. We all need strength and resources to get through difficult stages of life. Don't forget to take care of them. I always recommend adding resourceful activities to your weekly schedule. Yes, as mandatory, along with work. This).