For a whole year I have been working intensively as a text psychologist and consultant in a large company. And I’m happy to share sample topics that, I’m sure, will be in demand by readers of our site! Today I snapped at my five-year-old daughter. She was capricious and did not want to quickly get ready for the garden. What should I do to prevent this situation from happening again? Hello, dear author. Let’s look at this example to see how aggression worked for you precisely as a defense mechanism. A person only becomes angry when he is scared. And it was you who was scared - you were afraid of being late for work. What did your reaction protect you from? Because you will be punished? Maybe they will be subject to fines? Or will they simply think of you as an unpunctual person? That is, perhaps some kind of stereotypical attitude about getting ready for work and kindergarten came into play. The second reason for uncontrolled aggression is a possible defense of your need for respect and honoring you as a mother by your daughter. After all, every parent wants their children to obey. And uncritically and without stubbornness. Such children are a dream for parents. But then such children grow up and do not show character in communicating with other people. They are conflict-free, avoid disputes, and doubt their opinions. And it all starts with the choice of dress..... Now to the question of how to cope with the rolling emotion? But it is very important not to push anger, not to scold yourself for it, not to make excuses and not to be ashamed. Anger is the inner nature of every person. And this is normal. It is important to allow yourself to put aside anger, to tell everyone around you that you are angry because..... (explain the reason clearly to both yourself and others) I read that anger and screaming brought you internal discomfort, but this It was the GUILT for throwing your clothes, screaming and scaring your daughter that brought discomfort. In order not to be guilty, you need to be angry not at your daughter, but at the circumstances... Guilt is a complex emotional feeling, quite diverse in reasons and duration, but very toxic and difficult. It’s better to deal with it right away... And about getting ready for kindergarten. You can choose a ritual, a story, maybe with all sorts of surprises, so that morning preparations become an interesting game for the girl, and not a traumatic moment. For example, give an hourglass or a stopwatch or set a melody. And say that you need to get dressed while the melody is playing (pick up a 10-minute children's funny track). And you should always understand that a child’s bad mood is about something. For example, you are sad that you are breaking up with your mother, starting to get sick, missing home, or something else. You can suggest that you then definitely draw or sculpt this bad and capricious mood. And come up with something to transform it. I am very glad that you wrote in support of the psychologist. It is important not to keep it to yourself, but to share your mood with others. And I believe that you will definitely succeed. Psychologist - psychosomatologist Yakovenko GalinaViber, WhatsApp, Telegram89271287007