Being a woman...seeming like a woman...proving that you are a woman! How many gender queries we receive! Lord, it seems like everything has already been said about this, but no, someone will ..1) aren’t you going to get rid of these wrinkles? 2) why aren’t you giving birth to a second one? 3) and they didn’t promise you a position, the children are no longer in the kindergarten .. a couple to grow up! 4) no children at all? Are you childfree? Here she is sitting in my office and crying, because another unfortunate colleague has decided to express her opinion out loud! But, my girl! You should not and are not obliged to explain to everyone your choice of life path, about operations on the uterus, your attitude towards liposuction, and not wanting to do the work for your colleagues and much more! The ability to set your boundaries and protect them without destroying yourself or accumulating anger is another trick! And sometimes “thank you mom and dad” for not learning to knock when entering to your room; they removed the lock in the bathroom (you never know); for the fact that they could comment on your boyfriends in the presence of a neighbor. The ability to set boundaries is formed in a child along with the joy of his 3rd birthday and the desire to do everything himself. It is very important that parents support the child in this endeavor. However, this impulse of independence is extremely inconvenient for parents, it is dangerous, it gives strength to break away, and many symbiotic and toxic parents are afraid of this. Then we will take this model of subordination, without rights, into our relationships with friends and partners! And that’s all for you 30, and you also cringe when they talk about sex in front of you, discuss their own and other people’s children, you can’t say “no”, to those who want to once again feel the best at your expense, you will remain silent when a boorish aunt gets in in line! You are a woman and you are right! Without evidence, without hints, without demonstration of secondary sexual characteristics! And you just have to realize this fact, feel on the physical level where you are and where they are already, allow yourself to be, and not appear along with the whole palette of feelings - and oops! Everything is getting better! You and I are not apple trees to please everyone with our fruits: smart children, submitted reports, tried cream, learned dance! Dance if you want, give birth if you want, take red lipstick in the store and don’t use it - you you have the right to this!