There is a saying that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Pain is everything that we are powerless over, for example, our past, our age, the words and actions of other people, parents who criticize us (not to be confused with real parents, we are talking about the “internal critical parent”). Suffering is tension, which we add to the original pain by resisting, judging, denying and pushing away reality. “I don't like these wrinkles,” “I need this person to acknowledge me,” “I need to move on...” While mindfulness does not eliminate pain, it reduces suffering by helping us stay in touch with our experience rather than resisting it. Although we might prefer that our critical parent remain silent, we may not always be able to force him to back down. Instead, mindful acceptance of the situation can help us realize that we do have a choice about how we respond. At this point, we can accept the fact that the “critical parent” has become active. This acceptance can give us more room to make decisions without listening to the harsh voice of the “critical parent” and instead lovingly nurture our “inner child”. So, what we can really do is try to understand our feelings, if necessary, use a feeling journal ;voicing our feelings helps to realize them and slightly reduce the emotional intensity; to realize, that is, things that are beyond our control, to accept our powerlessness in front of this given; we allow this given to be near us, without the desire to push it away or deny it; if it is difficult to accept, then you can simply say that it is here, it is nearby, it is happening and I cannot change it in any way; try to write down your negative (denying) thoughts about it; try to write or speak a counterargument for each negative thought, and then try to track what feeling arises when a counterargument is voiced; has there been a slight interest in what was being fought against? Interest is a harbinger of change.