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Usually, when people meet, they first idealize the relationship for some time, believing that it is with this person that they will be happy all their lives. They admire, enjoy, and then at some point, they realize that not everything is as smooth as they thought and, in most cases, they first begin to devalue them, and sometimes even break up altogether. This often happens because the majority lives by the principle of “suitable - not suitable”, “liked-disliked”, not wanting to invest their own efforts in maintaining them and developing relationships. If people stay together, such relationships are often very superficial at first, since almost everyone strives, for a certain period at least, to meet the expectations of their partner, concealing their true desires and aspirations, which, one way or another, ultimately still leads to a clash with reality. But you just have to learn to communicate with another person! Unfortunately, we are not taught in schools and institutes how to build a family and how to raise children, how to learn to find a common language with the person we love, and the word “love” for everyone a person has its own meaning. You have to find out all this on your own. For someone who values ​​a relationship with the person with whom he began to build it, this is almost always a difficult path, during which you need to learn to give in, agree, insist and support the other person. How can you learn to maintain relationships?1. The first and most important rule is to talk. Talk about your wants, needs, what you like or dislike, your aspirations and expectations, and listen to the other. Sometimes it takes a long time to listen, just like communicating your values ​​and needs to your loved one. Remember, your real desires and your own ideas about them may not coincide. Therefore, in order to avoid disappointments and complaints later, you should be interested in them in a humble frame of mind. Both are equally important. Over time, observing how a person reacts to certain words, intonations, phrases: happy or sad, angry or begins to admire - you can prevent negative reactions in time or, on the contrary, cultivate a feeling of love. 2. Avoid ambiguity in relationships. It often happens that two people understand the same words differently, in the process of which such misunderstanding leads to irreversible consequences, your partner understood you.3. Cultivate in yourself sensitivity, the ability to imagine, console, in general, everything that is expected of you. Family life is not only about happy, joyful moments when two people enjoy life. These are moments of disappointment, powerlessness, and sometimes complete despair, so you need to set priorities in time - what is more important at the moment: insist on your own principles, or give a helping hand to someone who needs it at the moment. Even if you've never done it, trying is much better than doing nothing. 4. Be able to ask. Many people think that attention must be earned, that asking is beneath them. In fact, this is far from the case. Requests only deepen the relationship and provide an opportunity to get to know you, your desires, and your inner world better. Sometimes, if you don't ask, the other person may not even know about your needs because he has a different mindset, perhaps he lived in a different environment and simply does not know that what you need so badly is even possible. Love can work miracles. Remember this!