From the author: Thanks to contact, interlocutors understand each other and are able to correctly convey the necessary thoughts. In any conversation, everyday or professional, it is necessary to establish psychological contact with the interlocutor. Thanks to contact, the interlocutors understand each other and are able to correctly convey the necessary thoughts. The very first step in establishing such contact is gaze. Everyone has probably heard the phrase “Be sure to look your partner in the eyes!” However, such advice is not enough. Otherwise, there would be much fewer problems with mutual understanding! All articles on this topic talk about the importance of visual contact, but almost nowhere does it specify what exactly it should be. The fact is that even the direction of gaze is already a strong influence for the interlocutor. For example, if you look at your interlocutor intently and for a long time, he is unlikely to like it. Most often, interlocutors experience tension and discomfort when they catch such a look. This closes the interlocutor and distances you from each other in terms of psychological contact. It is also not recommended to look at a person's earlobe when talking to him. This advice came out of the walls of psychiatric institutions. Practicing psychiatrists look at the earlobe of a patient who has just been admitted to the clinic for treatment in order to specifically cause anxiety in him! In an anxious state, the patient must answer several leading questions (for example, “Who did you come with? Are you sure that someone is waiting for you in the corridor?”), based on the answers to which a preliminary diagnosis of his illness will be made. A look at the chest area of ​​a person is also special. Of course, women may find such a look simply offensive, but something else is more important here. It has been established that the interlocutor interprets a gaze directed at the chest chakra of the interlocutor as his partner withdrawing into himself, a feeling of his own unattractiveness and a disturbing feeling that “something is wrong with him.” The discomfort of such a look is very high for the interlocutor. The most comfortable gaze is considered to be directed at the entire face of the interlocutor and smoothly wandering from one part of the face to another. This look is attractive, and with its help it is easiest to establish psychological contact with another person. Issues of mutual incompleteness occur quite often in our time. Sometimes the issue lies in the inability to establish psychological contact, and sometimes the reasons lie much deeper. In any case, a psychologist will always help you cope with problems of interpersonal interaction in your professional consultations. Author: Bobovsky Yuri (http://psychogenes.ru) In collaboration with Egiazarova M.A. Do you have any questions? I will be glad to discuss the problem in more detail in the comments.