I often hear from other mothers: “my child will never learn to dress himself/do his homework/brush his teeth/put away toys, etc.” Why is this happening? Let's figure it out. The fact is that he has no motivation to learn this. Many parents make two main mistakes: 1) There is no sequence of requests and actions. First we ask the child to do something, then we start to rush and do everything ourselves for the child. The child perceives this as something that is not necessary to do when asked. You should try to gradually teach your child a new skill. If he can already dress himself, then give him this opportunity. Tell him in advance that it’s time to get dressed and give him the opportunity to get dressed. It takes a child much longer than us adults to do what he is just learning. Don't forget about this.2) We do not encourage the child to try to learn anything. And positive reinforcement is extremely important for a child! We want him to learn everything right away. We can tell you what you’re doing badly or taking too long, let me do it myself. Or we simply don’t notice that the child was trying to do something, but he just can’t do it yet. You need to praise even for trying to do something on your own. And if the child himself did something (even if he fastened the buttons crookedly or wrote ugly words), then he should be doubly praised. I came up with a Motivational Board for my children (photo below). On it you need to indicate in lines the skills / tasks that you set for your child. The columns should contain the days of the week, where the child can mark whether he completed the task today or not. Such a board can be made from different materials: - it can be an ordinary drawing board - it can be made from some piece of plastic (as I did ) - made of cardboard and paper. The main thing is that the child is motivated to celebrate his successes in it. Based on the results of the week / month, you can come up with some gifts for the efforts of the child if he completed his tasks. This board is well suited for one child in the family and for several children. It’s just important to make separate parts of the board for each child. Are you ready to make such a board? © Yulia Khodos, family and child psychologist, +7-925-196-57-50 (Whataspp, Telegram) MY INTERNET COURSE “MOM IN RESOURCE”Thank you for your comments and “thank you” marks, they inspire me to write further.