I want to share thoughts that just came to me (it was July 14). I suggest we think together now about this. Egoist. Who is it? Usually it is most common to think that this is a person who does everything only for himself, for personal gain, does not care about anyone and, frankly speaking, does not care about anyone. And usually the word egoist is associated with everything bad that can be observed in a person, for example: - He runs around and makes noise with his toy! The egoist is growing! Isn’t it clear that I’m tired and need rest? Let’s say this is said by a woman living in the apartment next door to the one where the baby is growing up. You can do different things in this situation. For example, a woman can go and scold the child, scare him, threaten him. As a result, you can get, for example, that the child will no longer run around and make noise, and the neighbor will think that she has become the person who actually took care of the child, teaching him to respect his neighbors. But what will actually happen to the child? Yes, most likely he will not make noise when it is already 18:00 and the neighbor is tired and has returned from work. And, apparently, only because it was imposed on him, taught, forced - Do this, and don’t do that. But has the child acquired the desire and ability to accept that in some situations his neighbor needs him to behave this way and not otherwise? I propose to think that in order to sincerely love, you need to realize that every action, thought, manifestation a person is doing for oneself.* It is important for me that my neighbor feels comfortable living with me. I want to feel satisfied that I did this for someone else. If we move away from the example about the child and the neighbor, * I want to feel peace of mind that I took care of my loved one by taking over his chores today. And as a formula:*** I want to change because I need it (!), and not because someone asks me to do it. (Yes, someone’s request can become a person’s personal desire.) Sincerity means * ** I do this and that REALLY for myself (intonation emphasis on the word self). *** I feel good when my beloved is cheerful. In order for her to be cheerful, I perform these actions. I do these things for myself, but the consequences are my favorite fun. When such variables are in the formula, when they are in such a place, then there will be a place for happiness, and not a creaking of the heart. I may be completely wrong in the opinion of many. I am writing this note to find out what you think about this. When you want to yell at someone who has upset you. Ask yourself * What do I want for myself with this cry? And it's true. Teach him not to step on his feet? Or maybe instill in him your taste in food? But this is not all for yourself. In fact, by shouting you may want to take revenge for yourself by making someone uncomfortable or by shouting to finally hint that you are incredibly hurt in your soul, offended or scared... and by understanding what you want for yourself with this action, you will be sincere attitude towards yourself, and therefore towards the whole world, and then you can make a decision.