From the author: Olga Sergeevna Moskalenko The art of loving and being loved No one can imagine life without love, especially at a young age. Young people fall madly in love, get married, and it would seem that no one in the world loves like them. Everything is like in a wonderful fairy tale... But why do these strong feelings subside over time, do your hands stop shaking, your heart stop beating at the desired meetings or glances, as it was before. For most couples, there comes a stage of disappointment and dissatisfaction with each other. Shortcomings of a loved one that were not noticed before begin to be observed. But love will not disappear anywhere, and good relationships will become even better if spouses learn to trust each other, supporting passion with intimacy. Intimacy is the quality of trusting someone enough to share your deepest feelings about yourself, others, and life, knowing that the other person will use this information to strengthen your relationship. And when people complain that their relationship is not cordial enough. Usually, this is a symptom that they are avoiding intimacy. The main reasons for avoiding intimacy in relationships: 1. Fear of being inferior. Some people are afraid of being in a situation where they feel defeated or inferior. They don't share their pain with anyone because they think they need to appear strong. This complicates the relationship on both sides. On the one hand, they feel lonely and have to hide their pain. In addition, others often resent the fact that nothing bothers you. Allowing your partner to share your pain often brings a sense of relief to them because they see that they are not the only one who sometimes cannot cope with things. He feels that you need him. 2. Fear of not being able to protect yourself. Some people are afraid that they will not be able to protect themselves from being hurt. They have allowed others to hurt them in the past, and they doubt they can prevent it from happening again. They see themselves as victimized by their partners and feel like they can't handle it. We sometimes think that our partner should know what hurts and not do it. It is important that you take responsibility and tell your partner what is hurting you. 3. Fear of lack of freedom. Is a person truly free if he constantly claims that he owes nothing to anyone? The more responsibility a person has, the more deeply connected he is with life and the more he receives from it. Love is the feeling you create after you decide to become intimate with a person. These feelings help you maximize his strengths and minimize his weaknesses. With this definition, love is a choice, not something that some magical force outside of you forces you to do. Taking full responsibility for love makes it easier for you to find it. Any family relationship needs to be built; it is not just a routine, it is, first of all, art and work. Family happiness is built on each other's consent, talented and happy children are raised. Alas, difficult family relationships are sometimes difficult to correct on your own; this is where the help of a psychologist is needed. You cannot delay dealing with family troubles, because in this case intimacy is completely lost and all family members suffer, especially the little ones. It is very important to understand that the key to your family's happiness is in your hands. Don't be afraid and don't trust yourself. Believe in your strength - by changing yourself, the world around you will change. But changing yourself does not mean changing yourself. A psychologist will help you in searching for this fine line, understanding and accepting yourself, feeling your true desires and finding ways to realize them. My services do not include miraculous advice to help make someone’s wishes come true, nor do I sell magic wands that instantly make all dreams come true. But I will help you get acquainted with your own internal, no less miraculous, resources, I will help you understand that the miracle is within you.