Preview 1: An article about how to get rid of a grudge, how to devalue the very meaning of this grudge. How to overcome an offender who inflicts a real insult in order to bring confusion, chaos, stupor, incapacity, disorientation into the head of the offended person, introduce the introject of the offender into the consciousness-thinking of the offended person, and thereby deprive the offended person of part of his social status, part of his material and intangible property, and even, perhaps, part of his adaptive beliefs, and therefore part of his mind? Correct. It is necessary to demoralize the offender, to devalue him. That's the minimum. Least. It’s better to neutralize, and so reliably, that the offender cannot damage your reputation, social status, professional status, family status, property status, never again! How to destroy the pseudo-resentment that you have instilled in yourself? After all, no one thought of offending or humiliating you. You have “offended” and “humiliated” yourself. How to destroy internal “resentment”, irrational, maladaptive, unprofitable for you? First, you need to devalue your constructs “self-esteem” and “pride”. Without this, it will not be possible to eliminate your ability to take offense where no one has offended you. It is very easy to get rid of resentment. Very simple. We must understand the social and internal nature of resentment and pseudo-resentment. Or undergo psychotherapy. And then work on yourself all your life, independently, and completely free of charge. Once again: An article about devaluing the resentment in your head. Whatever your offense may be. Disclaimer: I, like everyone else, have the right to express my opinion. This is my deepest belief, feeling, knowledge. I do not bear any responsibility to anyone for what I wrote here, and for the fact that you look at the video about the PIK technique. Here, on this site, everyone is 18 years of age and older, and they themselves are responsible for their soul and body, for their mood, and for their opinion. So, about psychotherapy, which provides such opportunities. Read carefully: My unique (I’m not afraid of this word) author’s method PIC (psychotherapy by Ivan Kuzmin) has its place, and has already helped many people. Yes, it is very complicated. But “you can’t take a fish out of the pond without difficulty.” Yes, there is no pathos and deception, placebo and nocebo, no “charm” and “miracles”. What will help in “breaking patterns”, accepting my scientific constructs (introjects) and the patient’s consent to the “brain puzzle”? First: Devaluation of the patient’s personal, destructive constructs. Second: Deprivation of the meaning of all “sewer”, ideational social automatisms. Third: Devaluation of the most dangerous social manipulators-introjects. Fourth: Maximum tension of the mind through a series of difficult, unusual, unusual logical and at the same time creative applications. In this case, there is a rejection of standard habitual cognitive processes in the work of the logical connective "cause - effect", and the reformatting of this logical connective to the scheme "deep conviction - effect - cause - secondary construct". Fifth: Patience and perseverance of the psychotherapist. Sixth: Patient motivation. Preview 2: How acceptable and useful is it to devalue something? Feelings Desires. Attractions. Thoughts. Beliefs and attitudes. Plans. Goals. And even emotions. Good question. Devaluation must be done, but for therapeutic purposes, according to the indications of a specialist experienced in psychotherapy. It is imperative to realize and accept as an ideational-target algorithm the information that offense is either a belittlement of the stupid and senseless self-esteem of the offended person, or a “test of the pen” of the offender before action to humiliate the offended person, or even an attempt to destroy, rob, eliminate, cripple, rob, or displace the offended person. Only awareness and real actions to eliminate the offender’s ability to offend will help here. Or real actions to emerge the constructs “pride”, “selfhood”, “ambition”, “self-esteem”. In order to be capable of this, you need to undergo psychotherapy. And then, throughout your life, engage in self-psychotherapy. Conclusions (summary): The most important thing is to.