Questions like: “Is it true that raising a child in one way or another can influence the development of narcissistic personality disorder in him?” and “Are children of narcissistic parents at risk of becoming narcissists themselves?” Let's figure it out. Let me remind you of the thesis: children adapt to their environment, their behavior is largely the result of adaptation to the style of parental education and family relationships. It happens that the most productive and reasonable adaptation to some home situations for a child is to become a narcissist. Here are some common scenarios that can lead to the formation of a narcissistic personality structure in a child: Scenario 1. Narcissistic parental values ​​A child is raised in a family where one of the key values ​​is competition. He is rewarded only for high achievements. Parents' love is not unconditional, but, on the contrary, is conditioned by results: if a child wins a competition, wins a competition, or becomes the best in any field, then he is showered with praise and attention. But if the child fails to do this, he is doomed to experience parental disappointment. Everyone in the family must be special, and prove it over and over again. No matter how much you achieve, this pressure of high expectations never subsides. One client described it this way: “When I came home from school with only A’s, my father would ask me if there was anyone in the class who had more A’s.” Children in such families do not feel consistently loved. It is difficult for such a child to enjoy something for its own sake if it does not give “status”. Their parents, instead of supporting them to explore what they like and want to do, only shower them with attention as a reward for high achievement. Such parents are not interested in the real “I” of their children; instead, they try to use the child as a reason for pride, a kind of decoration for the family. They want to be able to brag to their neighbors: “Look what my son has achieved!”, “That’s what my daughter can do!” Children who grow up in such families feel safe and “worthy” only when they are successful and recognized someone "best". Such love “with conditions” dooms a person to unconsciously chase the ghost of success all his life, replacing the concept of happiness with it. We'll look at the rest of the scenarios in the next part, don't switch)