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Good for you! For many, the topic of adequately accepting criticism is relevant. Most often, criticism can be of positive intent, but the form of criticism can be aggressive. Accordingly, the reaction to criticism can be aggressive. Such aggression has pain underneath it. It often hurts us when we are criticized, and defense against pain can be very diverse. And often this is aggression. Let's figure out how to respond to criticism. Our brain learns throughout life and then reproduces those behavior patterns that worked at least once. The processes between neurons are firmly covered with myelin, which allows the electrical impulse to be transmitted with minimal loss. If you rewind time and go back to childhood, there will be an episode when you were forced to protect yourself in this way. And most likely, if such a reaction took hold, then the situation was accompanied by strong emotions. At that time, there was no other way, the brain decided that since the defense mechanism worked then, it could always use this method, automatically, without thinking. Because it's easier this way. There is no need to invent new, more adequate defenses. And the path between the neurons is firmly established. The way out of this is to create a new path. It is created either by repeated repetition, or once, but highly charged with emotions. Then a new reaction will be formed. You just need to relearn how to accept criticism, track your reaction and live it. To do this, the simplest thing is to use breathing to return yourself to the state of here and now: open eyes, calm, not deep or shallow breathing, inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth, but not forced, but calm. Observing the feelings and emotions inside yourself as if from the outside. You should not respond to criticism (aggression) with aggression. The state of here and now will help with this. You should also formulate a different way of responding. For example, shift criticism away from yourself, onto the situation or actions that led to criticism, and analyze how adequate this criticism is to the situation. Praise the inner child within yourself, no matter what others say about him. It is necessary to protect your child part from attacks from the outside, and your adult part will calmly deal with this situation. Constellation group, I carry out work according to your requests https://www.b17.ru/training.php?id=46410