😇Don’t carry a burden in your soul😇Forgive him😇Let him go and forget😇It will come back to haunt her😇Karma will return it to him 😇Total forgiveness is important Bullshit on a stick. Forgive me, I’ll say it in psychological terms: this is not suitable for everyone and the option to “forgive” is not a bit less blissful than the option “not to forgive.” The question of whether to forgive or not is a matter of choice. I want to be a lawyer for those who choose not to forgive. Not forgiving does not always mean harboring a grudge, cultivating hatred, actively hating, beating yourself up in vain, and so on. The situation can be lived through, the affect has passed, the story has ended, and the person chooses not to forgive. Because you can’t do that with him/her. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations with no choice, we are simply subjected to violence and there is nothing we can do. Not forgiving may be the only act of self-preservation, because it allows you to discover yourself, to discover yourself as a subject. If you choose to forgive and it makes you feel better, that’s great. If you choose not to forgive and it helps you, that’s great. Therefore. I beg you. Don’t stuff carrots into people’s hats with the idea of ​​total blissful forgiveness. For those who are suitable, he will forgive; for those who are not suitable, he will figure out which method to choose. Do not forgive for your health. If a person treats you like a radish, you have every right to consider him as such, even if he saves kittens from the river. Not forgiving does not mean passing a verdict on a person. Not forgiving means passing judgment on his behavior towards you. We live in the paradigm of Christian ethics, which implies that forgiveness is one of the main virtues. I respect it. I want to consider only one of the possible options: a person forgave, but things got better for him. In the judicial practice of some countries (for example, Canada), There is a term that comes from Maori culture - true justice (“real justice”). It means that the criminal, as punishment, must atone for his crime not before the law, but before the victim - to compensate for damage, to pay off debts. I personally like this way - it's honest. You always have a choice whether to forgive or not. Both of these options are absolutely equivalent. And both options only work if a person experiences pain and does not run away from it. It's the most important.