How often do you have thoughts about what would be good to do..., I should finish this..., I think I was already planning to do this last month. How often do we catch ourselves saying that we could do more if we could. Life spins like a carousel; Days, weeks, years flash by. And in the whirlwind of everyday affairs, sometimes a feeling of despair and fear rolls in: when will I have time to do everything? And how do you understand what is important and what is not so important? What to do with the load of unfinished business and unresolved tasks? The Magic of Coaching This is where coaching comes to your aid. It is the coach who will help you set your priorities correctly, clearly distribute your affairs and tasks in order of importance, understand yourself and understand what is most important to you in life, and what you can generally refuse without harming yourself. Effective self-coaching questions In the meantime, the first thing you need to do before making a plan for implementing anything is to weigh everything carefully and ask a very important question: is this really important to me? Is this what I really want? The questions may vary, but the essence is clear. If the resolution of a case is put on hold, you need to check how significant this matter is for you. The longer the box, the less you need it. The measurement of the box itself is quite individual, on average about a month. And if solving a problem is postponed for a longer period, feel free to let it go. There are quite a lot of reasons why this happens: starting from the fact that perhaps you just don’t need it or it’s not what you really want and ending with the banal fear that something will go wrong or nothing will work out at all. In any case, you first need to understand what the stopper is. This will help you decide in the future. After all, there are things that you don’t have to do at all. Little tricks of self-deception In the end, get a small box and put such distant things there. And call the box “I didn’t really want to.” Let it be small, like a box, and be sure to be beautiful. So that it evokes pleasant feelings when you open it. There is one more nuance here; you not only need to put unnecessary things in drawers, but also forgive yourself for not finding the time, energy and desire to do it. This is a prerequisite for peace to reign in your soul. There should be no resentment or disappointment about this. The positive statement should be like that of the heroine of the world famous film: “I’ll sing about it tomorrow.” I’ll just think, and not do/decide. This way you give yourself the right to do or not do it in the near future and MAINLY not to reproach yourself and not feel guilty. And voila, in a day, a week you completely calmly solve this problem of yours, and with pleasure and enjoyment. And all because you allowed yourself to do it! This is great! This is such a great way to solve a reluctant problem)) Good luck and be happy!