In this article I will use the term “self-esteem” in the most clear and understandable form, for me it is “self-worth”. It’s clear, because you can immediately hear in the word about the value of yourself. So, sometimes articles write that in order to increase self-esteem, you should change your image - clothing style, or watch your speech, or change your social circle, or take care of your nails, and so on. There are a lot of recipes, in a word) I will write my own opinion in the article. Increasing self-esteem is not about fighting the consequences of any attitude, like “you are a bad mother,” “you are ugly,” “you are stupid,” and so on. Increasing self-worth is changing your view of your worth. What does it mean? This is everything about you: your feelings, your thoughts, your actions, your appearance and so on. But not from the side of mechanical actions, as one of the types of control (because motivation is indirect). And in order to: increase the value of your feelings, increase the value of your thoughts, increase the value of your actions, increase the value of your appearance, and so on. This comes only from within, like any true desire for change. So, it seems to be so simple, and why was it not clear before? Yes, because it is easier to give advice on intellectualizing the process than increasing awareness and self-development from popular literature (magazines, news articles, and so on). But that's not what we're talking about. How to increase the value of your feelings? Let them be. I feel it - I have the right to feel it. For example, anger. You feel angry and this is your reaction to what is happening around you - a dirty plate left by your husband or something else. Next comes the reaction to the reaction of anger. If this is a devaluation of anger, like, “Well, why are you angry? Well, the plate is miserable here, why are you angry,” then you do not allow your feeling to exist. Don't let it be lived. If you react to your anger as if it were something natural, then this anger will not last forever, it will pass. You can give way to your feelings, if you consider it necessary - inform your partner. What can be done in different, infinitely different ways. So that this will not lead to a quarrel at all, but will not lose its importance. How to increase the value of your thoughts? Let them be and not associate yourself with thoughts. You are not inferences, thoughts, conclusions or anything else. Thoughts and attitudes can change, but you remain. However, realizing the importance of the thought that makes its way to you is about increasing value. Give it time, sometimes it’s enough just to acknowledge its presence. Leaving will only worsen the persecution and the desire to escape from unpleasant thoughts. To increase the value of actions is to tell yourself that everything that was done was not just like that, it was what I thought/considered necessary at that moment! I had every reason to do so. If your inner critic intensifies, find the reasons why you acted this way, but these are not excuses, but reasons. Don't give up on yourself when you really need it. When you have done something and you scold yourself or devalue your actions and choices. Stay with yourself, protect yourself. This will help you feel more confident, mature, and safe. Here are some examples of ways to increase your self-worth. Your self-worth is already there. It’s just that most likely there is an attitude that does not allow self-worth to be the way you would like. This attitude can be discussed with a psychologist during consultations. You can independently look for positive factors (factors that are “positive” = “presence”). Those that will help you notice how much you do that you can thank yourself for, praise yourself for achievements, self-development, and so on. It is not so much the demands of the result that will help increase self-worth, but self-support and acceptance of oneself, or other skills needed at some point in life..