When a girl at twenty believes that something is wrong with her. This is sad, but in principle the norm. If at thirty she still does not understand that not everything and not everyone should be trusted - this is more difficult. If since childhood we were told that we are not beautiful or smart enough... we will most likely remain with this belief for a long time. all my life. I have a client whose husband (now ex) spent a very long time convincing her that she was “not very good” as a woman. There “the sides are hanging”, here “they need to be tightened up a little”, “the nose needs to be straightened because it’s not symmetrical”... but in general, of course, she’s doing great and everything will be fine with her. He had already told her this for the last time when he left the family. Leaving her with a huge debt, two small children and a bunch of complexes. She believed him. I believed it because my husband did. He knows better. Even though he is an ex. And it’s easier to convince yourself that you weren’t mistaken in choosing a man. He's ok, there's something wrong with you. Many people believe in this myth. And then I “gave permission” to stop believing. For a second, when a girl in her twenties believes that something is wrong with her. This is sad, but in principle the norm. If at thirty she still does not understand that not everything and not everyone should be trusted - this is more difficult. If since childhood we were told that we are not beautiful or smart enough... we will most likely remain with this belief for a long time. all my life. I have a client whose husband (now ex) spent a very long time convincing her that she was “not very good” as a woman. There “the sides are hanging”, here “they need to be tightened up a little”, “the nose needs to be straightened because it’s not symmetrical”... but in general, of course, she’s doing great and everything will be fine with her. He had already told her this for the last time when he left the family. Leaving her with a huge debt, two small children and a bunch of complexes. She believed him. I believed it because my husband did. He knows better. Even though he is an ex. And it’s easier to convince yourself that you weren’t mistaken in choosing a man. He's ok, there's something wrong with you. Many people believe in this myth. And then I “gave permission” to stop believing. For a second we assumed that he might be mistaken. His shoulders immediately straightened. The lips tightened, but a smile was already clearly visible in the corners. And then it became possible to completely decide that he knew nothing about her at all... and she was different. She was so different that even her mother could no longer be trusted. The same one who said that she would be a bad and irresponsible mother who “won’t raise her children.” That she was ungrateful and ruined her mother’s entire life. And you don’t have to trust the boss either. Because out of envy she blurted out something about restlessness and superficiality. Although my client was definitely not like that. But at first I automatically accepted the words of my “senior colleague” at work. We were taught that authority comes first. And reflection was silent at that moment. And she was silent and believed because, in principle, she knew very little about herself. At school they teach you to subtract and multiply, not to offend kids... but they don’t teach you not to be offended. And they don’t tell you that not all “adults are equally useful”... and not all are smart. Not everyone should be trusted, even if he is very important and close. When there is no internal support. When we are strangers...we believe. Have you also believed that you are not good enough for someone or something? Not smart enough? That you are the source of all problems? And so on. And so on. By the list.