It's no secret that there are people and situations in our lives that make us angry. They're angry and that's it. Prepare for them, don’t prepare for them - anger appears and overwhelms us. If this has never happened to you, you don’t have to read further, otherwise you will get even angry :) Note from the author: this article will talk specifically about anger, and not about less so / more intense feelings such as irritation, anger, frustration, rage. For me, anger is somewhere in the middle of this palette of feelings. It’s easier to describe it as a separate phenomenon with its own characteristics. It will also not describe a state of affect, which for the most part is beyond the control of a person. How can we characterize our anger? Sudden; Absorbing, Dominating in thoughts, “It makes my hands and... tongue itch” (a quote from one of my good friends), Changing my state and well-being. It seems like everything has been listed. No matter how it is. Not all. There are many more definitions that different people give to anger. Two definitions that I think are important to note here: Resource-consuming Energy-consuming Here we come across two rather contradictory concepts. How is this so? On the one hand, anger acts as a resource and helps in our activities, on the other hand, it wastes our energy. At first glance, this seems impossible. However, it is possible. Anger is either resource-consuming or energy-consuming. When we are angry, we can express anger in various ways. Resource - direct its energy to the implementation of those pressing matters that we have, talk about it using visual, auditory and other techniques, pour it into your creativity and the like. Energy-intensive - keep it in yourself and be silent, fixate on it mentally, play out situations that angered us and recall situations from the past to them. Conclusion: the anger is the same, but from it expression depends on its character. Anger is neither bad nor good. Until you have determined for yourself a way to express your anger, it has no evaluation, cannot be defined as useful or unhelpful. Conclusion: the usefulness of anger is in your hands. Awareness of the way we express anger is associated with our attentive attitude to our emotions. Conclusion: by training attention to your emotions, you can even benefit from negative emotions. Final quote: “In one case out of a hundred, giving vent to anger is much more beneficial! But how can we recognize that this is the very case?” Ernest Seton-Thompson To sum up, anger is a very ambiguous feeling that can either be destructive for us or even very helpful to a person in his activities. You and I can decide what to do with this emerging anger, in what direction it should go send. PS I invite you to think about why I never directly answered the question of the title of the article.