Sometimes it hits so hard that you can even howl like a wolf. And I want to escape from the surging emotions - to friends, to entertainment, social networks, to fool around with cats or anywhere, just so as not to feel it all. And also to make drastic decisions that can then be raked over for years. My advice is not to run. And go where it hurts. I know that many people don’t like to cry, and they also like to meditate or look for the positive in what is difficult. I call the latter “victims of ZATON.” The tooth hurts, but I still have it. They stepped on my foot, but I remembered where I was going. My husband is a goat, but I took up self-development. It seems beautiful and correct, but nothing changes in the lives of such people until someone tortures them properly. That is, they are highly dependent on the bad behavior of others in their direction, or on random misfortunes. Of course, it is important to look at life positively, look for a way out, etc. But there is a stage for such a way out; at all other stages, any decisions and attempts to somehow improve the situation will only aggravate the situation. For example, you can decide to get a divorce when anger and resentment cover you. But is this true? Or buy yourself clothes and goodies when it seems that no one loves you and no one needs you as you are. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is to realize yourself here and now, what is happening to you at this moment minute, what sensations in the body (warmth, cold, heat, pressure somewhere, lightness, aches, chills, etc.), what emotions cover (anger, resentment, disgust, seal, fear, fright, grief), and what thoughts arise (nobody needs me, I’m a loser, everything is bad, everything is useless, I’ll tear everyone apart, I’m at a dead end, etc.) The second is to give yourself the right to all these sensations, emotions and thoughts - that’s the truth, if they come to you, that means , it’s needed for something, it can be taken apart later. But now - just admit it all. I'm cold. I'm scared. It seems to me that everything is useless. And I have the right to feel it. The third is to feel, to be in what you suddenly discovered in yourself at this moment - if you are sad, then be sad, if you are scared, then be afraid, if you are angry, then be angry. For now, we are not talking about actions, but about sensations and emotions. But if you want to do something, then you can give vent a little - cry, scream, stare at the wall (not on social networks - this is important, and not a movie or even super useful training , just go nowhere, so that nothing distracts). Then you can do something to get out of the situation. But further actions will depend on the situation in which you find yourself, how long you have been in it, and what resources you have to get out. As a rule, when emotions come out, I first feel devastation, and then from somewhere ideas begin to arise on how to get out, what do, opportunities appear that I had not seen before. But until I hit this emotional bottom, as if all this positive was artificial, or was not seen at all. But when it comes like this - naturally, being born on its own, and not under pressure, then it is much more effective and lasting in its impact. And I almost forgot to clarify - if there is an opportunity to scream, cry and destroy furniture without witnesses (especially close people ), do it alone. So as not to shock others and to completely surrender to the will of the rolling states. My experience shows that this is the most effective and least painful way to get out of the negativity that sometimes rolls in. But I will be glad to receive your advice - what really helps you when everything is so bad that it seems there is no way out.