Hundreds of books have been written on how to get close to people, make friends and become friends. But few people think about those who, on the contrary, tend to avoid social contacts and do not need friends at all. In the psychological literature you cannot find advice on how to remain alone. And this article will be the first simple instruction for those who want to get rid of those around them. Why do we need friends at all? Being a social creature, a person is so inclined to unite with other representatives of his species that his health even depends on the presence of friends. Constant social contacts allow a person to develop himself, expand his range of interests, increase his level of erudition, and gain experience necessary for survival. Communicating with close friends helps cope with grief, anxiety, stress, and gives confidence in oneself and the chosen path in life. Why is it difficult to make friends? It can be extremely difficult for adults to get close to new people, and often friends are those who became friends in childhood or adolescence . The reason is that with age, the degree of distrust of others increases in a person. Evolution has provided us with a defense mechanism—a bias against opening up to strangers who might turn out to be our enemies. Therefore, for many middle-aged people, friends no longer seem to be a necessary part of life. If you have already come to the understanding that your friends have become a burden to you and cause only irritation and fatigue, follow 11 simple rules that will help you quickly find yourself in calm loneliness. How to push away from myself people1. Be intrusive. Call your friends for any reason, be offended if they can’t talk to you. Constantly talk about how you need a friend, how bad you feel without him. This lack of self-respect and demonstration of the weakness of your personality cannot help but alienate people from you.2. Humiliate other people. Criticize and discuss others in front of friends. This way you will show your friends that you are discussing them behind their back too. By supporting gossip, you will show how empty your life is, how much you are dissatisfied with it, which will make people stay away from you.3. Be active in the conversation. Talk a lot, don’t leave space for your interlocutor to communicate, insert your opinion into any conversation. This demonstration of disrespect for the interlocutor and his information will help you easily get rid of negative emotions and unnecessary people.4. Constantly dump negativity on your friends. Get angry if they don't listen carefully enough. Share your difficulties and experiences, complain about everyday trifles, unsettled life, a tyrant boss and a rude saleswoman. Do not take negativity from your friends to heart so that it does not lead you astray, because it is your job to share your dissatisfaction with life.6. Try to always have the last word in a conversation. And make sure that this is a full-fledged story about how lucky, smart, smart you were and how great everything worked out for you. Don't forget to talk about it as joyfully as possible. Remember that other people's joy is not always easy to bear, and only the most patient will remain by your side.7. Be tactless and rude. This style of communication will immediately show the strength of your personality and the degree of self-confidence. Follow the well-known law that truth is born in a dispute, increase your conflict tolerance and readiness to argue, especially if you are wrong.8. Always play a role. Always adapt to the interests of the company, pretend that you are aware of its jokes, use its slang. Never show your sincere feelings and experiences, so that no one understands what is in your soul and wants to get closer to you.9. Never take initiative. Don't be active and don't offer your help. Let your friends call you, look for meetings, organize communication and joint entertainment. Be sure to show how busy you are right now and that you are doing a favor simply out of old friendship.10. Narrow your conversation topics. Don't show off your