What kind of unpleasant type lives in the inner world of many, we found out in the previous article, read it. Now our task is to tame this guy (or maybe you have a nasty lady?) and regain the right to be yourself. How to do this? 1. Get to know your Inner Critic• what is his name (yours)?• in what situations does he come?• how does he manifest himself, what does he say?• where did he come from?• what is he afraid of, what does he want?• what is his goal and function? Find out everything- everything and draw up a portrait of your Inner Critic. This way you create distance between you. As long as you are fused with the Critic, you are in his power. Distance gives room for maneuver.2. Determine the consequences of his actions. How do you feel when you hear the words of a Critic addressed to you? How do his attacks affect you? Be honest with yourself. His words give you energy to conquer the world, or do you want to hide under the rug?3. Evaluate the actions and words of the Critic. Does he treat you fairly? Would the same be true for your best friend or loved one? Decide for yourself whether this way of communicating with yourself is right for you, whether it actually helps. If your gut tells you that it is not, then make a firm decision not to give in to it anymore and to learn a different relationship with yourself.4. Practice is the only way to implement the solution. Here are 4 ways to repel the attacks of the Critic in the moment: Learn to recognize the Critic and stop his attacks: “Stop! This doesn’t help me” and give counterarguments to his words. Solid facts will help here without good/bad assessments: I have such and such an education, so many people value me, I can do this and that, I have already walked this path and coped with such difficulties. Try to satisfy the Critic in accordance with his need and motive - calm his fear or agree on boundaries. For example: “I’ll just sit around for exactly 10 minutes, and then I’ll start preparing for the seminar,” and honestly (!) do just that. This method does not always work, try it. Ask for support. Tell a friend about the Critic's attacks and ask him to act as your lawyer - to provide fair (not flattering) counterarguments and evidence of your innocence. When there is a Prosecutor, there must also be a lawyer. Yes, and together or even in a crowd it is easier to defeat the Critic than alone. If the Critic is too strong, and the previous methods did not work, you can roughly shut him up. Direct the energy of anger not at yourself, but at opposing self-violence. And be vigilant: even the fact that you are not immediately able to stop your Monster may become a reason for self-criticism. This vicious circle is the most difficult. Breathe and remember that the Inner Critic is a skill that has been developed over the years and decades. He has an eight-way neural connection at his disposal, and caring for himself is just a path that is easily washed away by rain. Practice and you will succeed! Good luck, I believe in you! VKontakte group, where there are more publications - https://vk.com/t.gokinapsy Telegram channel "Warm People". Come in and warm up - https://t.me/tgokinapsy