Although I am not a child psychologist, I have my own opinion about raising children. So, do modern parents know how to raise their children? Did I know how to do it in previous generations? Will our children cope with this task? When the desire to become a mother just began to mature in me, doubt was already maturing along with it: “Will I be able to cope? Will I be able to raise a good person? Will I be able to avoid causing him suffering? But in 30 years, won’t my child be sitting in an office? therapist and complain about your mother? And as my survey of young parents shows, almost everyone has such doubts. We are not taught to educate. This is not talked about in schools and institutes. Our parents just repeat: “When you have your own children, you will understand!”, but what exactly do we need to understand? No answer. Nowadays parenting is becoming a new fashion, there are courses for parents, a lot of development tools for children, it’s amazing. Everyone strives to mold their child into a child prodigy, drags him around to clubs, he has a lot of social contacts and experience. What about at home? But there is no time at home. There is no time to just hug and read a fairy tale together, because all you need is an educational one! But this is a tribute to fashion. Everything in our lives now strives to develop towards simplification of work and minimal energy consumption. Of course, it’s easier to take your child to classes a couple of times a week than to study with him on your own every day. We all strive to do the best, because professionals will work there and there will be more sense. We are not taught to talk to our child at different ages, to experience his Crises with him. Parents have always done this intuitively, but not always successfully, of course. And now there are many books, educational programs and TV programs, training sessions and many educational methods. But the effectiveness and result of education using these methods is not immediately visible; only mom and dad who know his habits, temperament and character can choose the “ideal” method for their child. We have a huge responsibility - we are making a new person. We have already invested half of it genetically, and the other half needs to be built brick by brick. And all this responsibility falls a huge burden on the young shoulders, who are simultaneously living through financial crises in the country, unemployment, huge prices and an expensive dollar, insane interest rates on mortgages. The eternal race for social status. This is all a huge stress. For some time, enthusiasm, desire and strength are enough, but we are all human and can get tired. And a tired person is irritated. He radiates his mood and children fall under this radiation. We may come home from work tired and not notice how we offended the kid who was waiting for us all day and drawing a picture for us. And a quick glance and an indifferent: “well done,” only at first glance a completely harmless comment. In general, I will not reinvent the wheel and write another book about raising children. I will just repeat the common truth: love your child. Always. Even if you are tired. First, think about what exactly your baby will hear in your tired voice when you want to go to the sofa as soon as possible. Don’t help your child do his homework if you yourself are not in the mood and you get annoyed when he doesn’t understand you. Don't go for a walk with him in the park if you want to be with friends. Time with your child should be his only, all your attention should be his, so that he knows for sure that you love him and will support him at any moment. Aren't these the two biggest problems and grievances of a modern adult? We often feel unhappy, believing that we are little and poorly loved, not valued enough, we are afraid for the future, because we do not feel supported. We don’t really believe in ourselves and our strengths, we doubt and are offended. Just remember this when you communicate with your child, because he will grow up to be an adult like you, become a strong foundation and reliable support for him. Love your children no matter what.