Has it ever happened that after communicating with someone you felt mentally and even physically ill? Then you know how hard it is to communicate with toxic people! What to do? Unfortunately, not every person knows how to build healthy personal boundaries and fully understands what self-care is. Self-care is one of the three components of healthy self-love. As a result of the inability to build personal boundaries, a person may be forced to endure the presence of a toxic person next to him, who skillfully manipulates him and takes advantage of his inner feelings of guilt, hyper-responsibility and simply the kindness of his soul. A toxic person in your life can be a friend, acquaintance, colleague, or even family member. It is important to be able to recognize this toxicity and protect yourself from it in time before it begins to poison your life in a completely childish way. Signs of toxicity: 1. “Sneaky” kindness. What is it? This is when, having said something seemingly kind to you, a person adds just a little potassium cyanide to this barrel of honey, teasing you or hurting you. For example, “oh, what a beautiful car you have, now make sure you don’t crash it!” or “what a great son you have, it’s just a shame he’s short.” That is, in essence, they seemed to praise, but on the other hand, they immediately said nasty things on the sly. I talked more about passive aggression here https://www.b17.ru/article/passivnaya-agressiya-prichini-i-primeri/2. Accusation under the guise of an apology If the person in front of you is guilty of something, but instead of apologizing, even knowing about your offense, he again speaks with ridicule: “Come on, why are you offended all the time?” and then behaves as if nothing had happened, this behavior suggests that the relationship with you is not important to him.3. Feeling of relief from a pause in communication If you have a feeling of relief when contact with a person ends, then this person is toxic to you. Often communication with him causes negative emotions, irritation, anger (including at yourself).4. Lack of trust If what you share with a friend then turns out to be known to other people, this is a sign that he does not respect or care about you, which means he is not a friend. This can also include devaluing your requests, thoughts, joint agreements. It is important to remember that friend is a big word and you should not call anyone a friend. Think about whether you have correctly built personal boundaries, what emotions communication with a person evokes in you, how much energy you spend on this and whether you receive good energy in return. If the answer to all this is negative, then think about why you keep such a person in your life and whether it would be better to stop communicating with him. Communication with toxic people and the inability to say “No” to this communication speaks of a lack of self-love and a lack of understanding of oneself. In this case, working with a psychologist will help you to restore self-love, build healthy personal boundaries and gain self-worth! Working with a psychologist will help you! Leila AliPractical psychologist I help you regain the meaning and joy of life! Sign up for a consultation: Whatsapp: +7-903-717- 84-65Telegram: @leila_psycoach