How does self-respect manifest? If you respect yourself, others will too. For example, you attended a cool seminar, but you do not apply the knowledge gained there for yourself. They are gradually leaving your life. How does this relate to self-respect? You spent the money on your needs in order to master and apply this knowledge. Your value will increase when you start using them. You will respect yourself for this step and broadcast it to others. What is self-respect for me? - Express your true feelings and thoughts. Because they still exist and it’s fair to yourself to know how other people really feel about them. - Have the courage to express your opinion. Yes, it may be wrong, but how will you know? - Do what you really want, and not what is prestigious or what others want to see. This is your life. And don’t do what you don’t want. - Don’t agree with someone else’s opinion if it’s different from yours, even if you’re scared to do it. If it is a mistake, then it will be yours, not someone else’s, and this is the value. You will take this into your experience. Self-esteem is when I think, feel, say and do the same thing. This is my opinion. Even if my thoughts seem bad or wrong to someone, I believe in them. My behavior also does not suit someone, but I also believe in it. I respect myself for this. I don’t want to seem like someone else. For example, I feel fear, my body trembles and my shoulders slump, I think: “I’m scared,” and I talk about it in order to check whether there really is danger and fear or whether I just made it up. They answered me and I respect myself and others for this. If you think one thing, feel another, and do a third, it’s as if you are being torn apart from within into several parts. The psyche in such a situation begins to suffer, because the body does not understand if in your thoughts you scold yourself, while being afraid, but say that everything is completely fine. The body receives a variety of contradictory reactions and begins to hurt. The body doesn’t lie. Self-respect is several emotions: calm satisfaction, or calm joy, which are automatically followed by thoughts: “everything is fine with me” or “good” and hormones: dopamine, serotonin, etc. That is, everything is as simple as playing the violin by a professional. But there is no self-respect - and the body receives completely different impulses, different opposite hormones are simultaneously released for this and a malfunction occurs inside. The body does not understand: should it tremble from fear, or, on the contrary, enlarge and “beat”, or is everything still fine? Here we need to decide what to do? Pause and illness. Now everything is clear what to do and instead of self-respect - “respect for illness.” We find time for her and put aside everything else. What does self-respect mean to you? Galina Martynyuk, psychosomatologist, doctor and scenario psychologist, WhatsApp 89164041162