In the modern world there are many publications about violence. This topic is popular both among the younger generation and among those with rich life experience. Talk shows dedicated to family and marital relationships, in which scandal becomes a discussed and popular topic. Talk about scandals, observe emotional breakdowns, the problems of a family in which the needs and desires of its members are not spoken and discussed, but rather forms of manipulative behavior such as blackmail, intimidation, and ignorance are used. Let's look at the difference between violence and measures to resolve child and parental problems. Let's take a child aged from 7 to 14 years. Option 1. Parents strictly prohibit the use of a phone, tablet, or laptop. A regular push-button telephone is issued for mandatory calls to and from school. Parents strictly control the child’s contacts. Option 2. The child has modern gadgets, but certain sites that pose a threat to the fragile psyche are blocked. He is allowed to use communication means, take photos and videos, make presentations for classes and defending school projects. The time is regulated depending on the complexity of the task. Option 3 In the family, all family members are completely digitally dependent. The main activity is working and playing on the Internet. Laconic, emotionally cold parents and children forced to mirror this behavior. Which option do you think is the most humane and acceptable? if today we are talking about digital violence? Financial violence and its popularity are rarely written about. Who could be a victim of such unhealthy communication? People in a dependent state: young children, family members who are not working for various reasons. Then a person who has the main means of providing for life - money - can use financial violence. For example, a family contacted me regarding the eating and communicative behavior of a 7-year-old girl. While preparing for school, she either did not eat anything or hid food, collecting it from everyone classmates. She was aggressive, or sat with a dull gaze, distant from everyone. As a result of play therapy, she showed a model of communication in the family, taking as a basis a plot with trained dogs. She played out a situation where you can’t take food to dogs without the permission of the trainer. Imagine my surprise when my parents told me about the family rules: children are forbidden to take any food without permission. For disobedience, they are punished by standing in the corner and being deprived of cartoons. The family is wealthy and socially successful. Dad just took such a model from his own family and saw that it really worked. The children obey like the same digital dogs that my daughter played with. Any word from mom and dad is caught on the fly and fulfilled. And in society, suppressed emotions result in aggressive behavior. Economic violence can be used by a well-earning family member, demanding artificial respect for himself, blackmailing him with the idea that he will deprive his children and partner of the right to financial assistance. Shouts: then you will crawl to me on your knees when there is nothing to eat - these are the most popular words of the stingy manipulator in the family. Stop! Think about the trauma you cause to people close to you, how words can hurt more than a blow. I invite everyone who has experienced various types of digital or economic violence to a consultation under the auspices: “This can’t happen to me!” Psychologist, psychosomatologist, Galina Anatolyevna YakovenkoViber, WhatsApp 89271287007 Telegram channel https://t.me/galinayakovenko1