Author: Vitaly Pichugin Source: http://www.nlplife.ru/ People live together, but what exactly should a family do? We've had enough sex, the furniture has already been moved several times, there is hope that having children gives meaning to family life. Sometimes it gives meaning, but life complicates it. Often, the stork that brings the child carries away the husband. Or the wife doesn’t understand why she needs a husband if she’s always busy with the child. Therefore, children can be a great difficulty for a family if the spouses do not understand what they are doing together. To say that you just need to love each other, and everything else will follow, will not be the complete truth, and sometimes a complete lie. I observed a young couple in the gym. Apparently, they bought a subscription and decided to study together, but it is clear that they are new to this business. Why did they come to the hall? Most likely, there is a belief that you should play sports, preferably together. By the way, many people get married for the same reason - you need to love someone, you need to have sex, preferably together. And what next? They don't know what to do in a gym with many machines. There is a general understanding: you need to play sports, but how exactly is not clear. It’s similar in a family – you need to love each other, but how exactly is not clear. Although sex is a manifestation of love, it is not the only thing. Man does not live by sex alone. The young people got on the treadmill, ten minutes later, sweaty but happy, they satisfied their need for movement. But then what to do in the hall? There are a lot of simulators, where to go, what to do? The husband went to the rack with dumbbells, the wife to the large mirror. For the next five minutes, the husband meditated on the dumbbells, the wife on the mirror. There was no clear purpose for visiting the gym, so chaotic movements began on different exercise machines. The wife caught her tongue on a girl on a nearby exercise machine, started with the question “what are they pumping on it”, then went into a discussion of the local solarium. The husband didn’t like his wife’s idleness, he decided to take care and brought her dumbbells. Having encountered complete misunderstanding and rejection of care, the husband was offended and took away the dumbbells. Out of grief, I lay down under the barbell. Blinov hung more than he could lift; he probably decided that being crushed was a very romantic death. I helped him survive, put the barbell on the racks. At this time, the wife, on the recommendation of a new friend, went to work out the back of her thigh, but something didn’t work out, so she lay down on the bench to work out her abs. I just lay down, because I need to rest on something. The husband came up with a lecture about unsportsmanlike behavior. You can’t just lie on the exercise machines! I drove my wife away and went to bed myself. Convenient, he says. Then it was time for the wife to be offended, and she went to sit on another bench. Not understanding what they were doing in the gym, twenty minutes later the couple had a successful fight, and he went to the pool, and she went to the bathhouse. Much the same thing happens in family life. Any family is in danger if the spouses have not formulated for themselves and come to an understanding of why they need a family and what they will do in it. Just one went with the flow, we decided to go together. The current (of life) is insidious, one is pushed towards the shore, another is pulled into the pool, or vice versa. It pushes someone, throws them around, simply drowns them. The family is safe when a strong ship is built, it has sails and the captain knows where he is sailing. Everyone is confident in the right course, there is peace and harmony on the ship. Currents, waves, winds, everything happens, but these are minor difficulties that only unite the team. It’s better to engage in sports by setting specific goals and selecting exercises. Together, supporting each other - more effective, more interesting, more enjoyable.