Clients often come with the question “How to remove anxiety? Anxiety about everything “Let's figure out where anxiety comes from. Understanding the process leads to understanding how to get rid of it. 🤓Anxiety protects our body. This is a healthy and even useful reaction. It signals some kind of threat. 👍But sometimes anxiety becomes such an overly caring grandmother who stuffs another pie into you or looks like a mother who forces you to put on a hat at +10. 🤨Also, anxiety sometimes “confuses” random, intentional and natural things. 🤷‍♀️For example, spring will come after winter, summer after spring, autumn after summer - these are ✅ natural things. If you see a cloud in the form of a cat or a dog in the window, it’s an accident. Now I’m fixing my hair, it’s a deliberate event. So, if anxiety confuses cause-and-effect relationships, it begins to grow. For example, we begin to consider frost in winter to be intentional, although this is a pattern. And a flash drive forgotten during a performance is natural, although it was an accident. This results in cognitive dissonance. When we attribute a tragedy on a universal scale to absolutely natural events. ▪️Example from practice. Girl laboratory assistant. Received new responsibilities for preparing a report for the manager. And she starts to worry. And so much so that he stops sleeping normally. Then headaches and stress. What happened❓Having received new responsibilities, she decided that her possible mistake (random event) would definitely lead to her dismissal (attributed a pattern to him)🤷‍♀️. What to do about it? ▪️The first and most important thing is to reduce anxiety avoidance. Or rather, start going towards it. For example, you don’t pick up the phone to avoid an unpleasant conversation, you try not to run into your boss so that he doesn’t ask how you are, you put off posting your resume because it will require you to respond and go for an interview, or you don’t dare to go on a date. On the one hand, it’s normal to avoid stress , but when you do this regularly, you lose the skill to cope with it, which means anxiety will increase.▪️The second method is called addiction. When you don’t drive anxiety out of yourself, but rather get used to it. For example, you are afraid to ride in an elevator. First you stand next to the elevator. Then call the elevator. Then get in and out of it. Come in, press the button and leave. Come in with a friend, close the door and open it. You and a friend are going to the 1st floor. Then you go down and now you are riding alone. Such a methodical addiction.▪️The third important skill is to be able to relax. This is the technique. Tighten your entire body from head to crown and relax. At the same time, feel how every part of the body tenses and relaxes. Do this 3-5 times.▪️The fourth way is to look at your thoughts as if from above. It’s as if you went up to the 10th floor and looked at cars passing, people walking, dogs walking, etc. And describe your thoughts in the third person. For example, I worry if I'm stuck in a traffic jam and I'm late to take my child to school. I'm starting to think. “Marina is sitting in a car, there is a car in front of her, a car behind her. The navigator shows an accident. Marina moves in the general flow. She'll be late. Her son will be late. Marina warns the teacher. And so on." in this way, you kind of take the anxiety out. She is already less connected to you.▪️And of course, plans calm the psyche. When she understands what will happen behind this or that action, it is easier for her to cope with anxiety. So the work is always complex. And we also do not forget that behind anxiety there are always some kind of fears. If there are a lot of them, you may need to visit a psychologist 🤔