Recently I was on the subway: I sat on a bench and excitedly read some interesting book. Someone’s voice brought me back from the world of fantasy to reality: “Girl, shame on you!” Turning my head, I realized that a woman sitting one person to the right was addressing me. I looked into her eyes in surprise, and she, pursing her lips, repeated: “Shame on you!” “What are you talking about,” I asked her, sincerely not understanding what she actually wanted from me. It soon became clear that I should be ashamed because of the fat elderly woman who stood somewhere not far from me and showed absolutely no sign that she even heard our dialogue. “Why should I be ashamed?” – I still asked, although my inner child, seeing such a familiar condemning mask on her face, had already begun to fuss, trying to hide somewhere from the unpleasant feeling. “You are sitting, and she,” here the woman shot her eyes towards the girl swaying to the beat. the train responsible for the incident,” stands. “A-a-a-a-a,” I finally realized, and, still with my thoughts in the twisted plot of the book, I carelessly asked the standing madam. “Do you want to sit down?” My statement was the last straw in the sea of ​​irritation of the fighter for justice. Hissing something to the effect that “you should have realized it yourself, of course, it’s difficult for her to stand, of course, she needs to be seated,” she nervously crumpled the handkerchief in her hands and, frozen like a stick, stared unseeingly into the space of the carriage. In our society It is customary to raise children through shame, simply put, by shaming. The phrase “shame on you” has become one of the main phrases in the lives of many adults. Many mothers do not allow their children to run, scream, climb into puddles, or ask awkward questions because “they will be embarrassed in front of others.” No, it’s not their mothers who are so bad, their own mothers taught them this, and those, in turn, were taught this by their mothers... What is shame? From the point of view of society, it is a regulator of people's actions. The feeling “I will be ashamed” keeps us from actions that, in our opinion, may interfere with others. Let's go back to the situation in the subway, shall we? The woman, who had difficulty standing, did not ask me to give her my seat because she was “ashamed” to do so. In our society, it is generally “ashamed” to ask for something for yourself. In fact, the woman who began to shame me was also unable to say that she was sorry, she was worried about another person. After all, this would require admitting that she needs help.!