She appears in the life of every man sooner or later. Let's call her Alice. She unexpectedly falls into his rabbit hole, comfortably equipped, as the Rabbit thought, for the rest of his quiet life. And suddenly - what a disaster: a screaming, eccentric, fidgeting and curious creature falls right on our hero’s head. The man would like to think about it, but it doesn’t work out. Since his life began to gallop, starting from this historical moment - the appearance of a girl, a girl, a woman - Alice. Often the object of adoration is not very attractive in the eyes of others - it’s simply unclear how one can idolize such a “goat”? But you know! What others don’t see: her thin fingers, a curl of yellow hair on her delicate neck, her ringing laugh... and cruel refusal. From this point we will begin to confess to Dr. Freud, and in more detail. Often it is refusal, in one form or another, ignoring a man’s desires that most inflames his passion. And if the impulses of a lover do not meet with understanding in a cruel lady, he slowly but surely slides into the swamp of codependency. The man no longer forces events, but is ready to beg for even tiny grains of attention to his person. You cannot talk about feelings - there is a silent ban on this. In a panicky fear of destroying a relationship that actually does not exist. But maintaining their illusion is what now becomes the main occupation of the Rabbit. He will not go to the therapist’s couch, but on the contrary, he will begin to indirectly demonstrate in every possible way his strength, beauty, intelligence, dexterity, and most importantly, suffering. He is no longer afraid to humiliate himself and asks for any favorable look, movement, or action from Alice in his direction. The rabbit even stops being jealous. Osip Mandelstam describes this state well: “I want to serve you, just like others. I can cast spells with dry lips out of jealousy.” Realizing yourself, your place in the world and in these illusory relationships can be very difficult. It’s good if they don’t end tragically - for the families of the participants in the love drama, for the Rabbit himself, and even for Alice. But it’s still worth trying to get out of the hole.