In a mass grave called “Laziness”, everything is not buried. Things usually happen that you don’t want to do. This is perhaps the main sign of laziness, no matter how obvious it may seem. When clients say they don’t want this or that, I always wonder what they want to avoid. So. What does a lazy person avoid? Textbooks on general and developmental psychology do not have a separate chapter on laziness. However, this concept appears one way or another in conversations about the emotional-volitional sphere of the individual, about activity, work (in the context of character traits that express the attitude towards work), about the need to overcome barriers in oneself in order to become persistent and have self-control. At this point, where I read about overcoming barriers in myself, I shrink and want to lie down on the sofa... Well, because I don’t want to overcome barriers in myself at all. What are these barriers in general? Where's my pillow? Seriously. And do you know why? Because that's how it works. Laziness is a social construct that is used to educate. Shame, mostly. Calling it a vice. “Smart girl, but lazy.” A good tool to manipulate: “You’re just lazy”, read “You better do it, otherwise you’re bad/I won’t love you/you won’t get anything, etc., continue the list...”. Aaaand off we go! Don't you want to do it? Overcome yourself? You're just a lazy person. Overcoming difficulties that arise in any type of activity and overcoming yourself are two different things. Overcoming the difficulties associated with entering into activity is even more so. This is a period at the beginning of an activity when you need to concentrate in order to do it selflessly and with pleasure)) But only do (there is one condition!) what is INTERESTING. That's the secret. Fatigue, chronic stress, apathy, illness, and reluctance to do something are mistaken for laziness, for the sole reason that this activity seems pointless to you. For example, ironing jeans, wiping off dust every day, the first thing that came to mind..) The desire for comfort (reading while lying down, for example), and such an important part of creativity as contemplation flies to the mass grave, along with rest, entertainment, care about yourself, building your boundaries (refusing to work without breaks and days off, for example). Next. Laziness includes unpleasant experiences associated with the fact that something needs to be done or accomplished. For example, fear and anxiety to do a new project, or a project in general, to try new things in search of your interest. What if it doesn't work out? Scary? Very. I’ll waste time, I’ll waste energy, but it turns out that it’s all in vain, where is my TV series, the new season came out recently. But not in vain! Now you know what exactly doesn’t suit you, you know HOW exactly it doesn’t suit you and you know how to change and improve it. Or you need to meet someone: go on a date, for example, and immediately you become so lazy, well, because there are so many I’ve already had these dates, and there’s nothing but disappointment after them. In this case, behind laziness we have a fear of disappointment. Or we need to go to relatives, and they will again start their questions: “When will you find a normal job?”, “When will you get married?”, “When will you give birth to a child?”, “When is the second/third/fifth/tenth?” Scary? And me too. But it’s better to call fear laziness. It's more socially acceptable. And then you are braver, just lazy. What can you do, such a person. Or you’re just too lazy to read the book (they just can’t get around to it, they say) that was recommended, watch a video or movie that was praised, and you “definitely need to watch it.” Too lazy to watch a video or movie that this particular person recommended. Which you don't like. Which somehow doesn’t really apply to you. Or so you think about him. Because watching a video or film is associated with difficult experiences caused by this person. Where does all this come from? “Rest must be earned.” Have you heard this as a child? “They only love those who are useful.” M? “He who doesn’t work doesn’t eat.” Okay, yeah, right? “Sit down at the table and.