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After publishing articles about Maladaptive Daydreaming, I noticed that many people wrote about the benefits of the information they read, but at the same time they were disappointed that they did not provide answers to what to do with this most obsessive fantasy and how to treat it? In this article, I would like to bring some clarity to this issue and share the experience that I have accumulated while working with daydreaming. To begin with, it is worth clarifying that not every act of fantasizing is a problem. Imagination and dreams are an integral part of any person, to one degree or another. They serve to benefit a person and perform important functions: they help in planning, make it possible to calculate and rehearse possible options for the future, stimulate and motivate, are a powerful source for creativity and creativity, and when reproducing events of the past, they contribute to the analysis and assimilation of experience. It is problematic. becomes when it goes beyond the scope of the listed functionality and begins to have a negative impact on a person’s ability to lead an active lifestyle: perform daily duties, study, work, socialize, etc. Here we add the word “obsessive” to “fantasy.” The original uses the term “maladaptive” (maladaptive - maladaptive, maladaptive, poorly adapted), which, of course, better conveys the meaning of the phenomenon we are considering, but by the time I began translating the articles, the phrase “obsessive fantasizing” was already actively used on the Internet “So I didn’t reinvent the wheel and settled on this option. In addition, obsession is one of the characteristic properties of such fantasy, so this translation is quite appropriate. That is, what we have as a result: the absolutely normal and inherent human ability to fantasize at some point develops into a form of behavior or thinking that begins to do much more harm than good. Here it is also worth paying attention to the fact that experts have not yet come to a common opinion about what obsessive fantasies are; a habit, a coping mechanism, a defense mechanism, an addiction, a symptom, a specific disorder, or something else. The options are all different and there are many of them, but we are still interested not so much in theory as in what can be done with it in practice, so everyone is free to choose the interpretation that is closer to them. And here we come to the most interesting part; How can I tell if I have obsessive fantasies and, if the answer is yes and it bothers me, how can I deal with it? In order to answer the first question, there are several ways: Don’t be lazy and read the information about obsessive fantasies, especially its symptoms; Take a questionnaire to determine the level of obsessive fantasizing (available for free on the Internet). The authors of the questionnaire believe that daydreaming can be considered problematic if the result is 40 points or more; And, the most important criterion that you should rely on not only in this matter, but in any other case is your personal feelings and observations (sad, dreary , lonely, anxious, apathetic, always lazy and don’t want anything, etc. - signals from your psyche that something is wrong). After following the above recommendations, I see three options for the development of events: Either you came to the conclusion, that your fantasies are not obsessive, they do not bring you any discomfort, and then you can not bother at all and live for your own pleasure; Or obsessive fantasies exist, but to an extent that does not cause significant damage to functioning, and you feel that are able to cope with this on your own, that is, the situation is under your control; Or there is obsessive fantasizing, it is dysfunctional, brings severe discomfort, and you feel that you can no longer cope on your own. For me, as a specialist, the third scenario is of interest. IN :)