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The comments of a stranger are fundamentally different from the comments of parents. And it’s not just about the content, which can be either fair or not. Such remarks can seriously hurt a child and disrupt his relationship with his parents, and undermine trust in the family. This is especially true for children over three years old. For young children - up to about three years old - the assessments of an outsider are not yet very significant. The situation is different with children of preschool and school age. If mom or dad allowed another adult to reprimand or scold the child, he may decide that the parents did not stand up for him and will not stand up for him in the future. The consequence of this may be a decrease in self-esteem, the emergence of self-doubt and anxiety. Therefore, you should not take the side of the one who makes the remark and join in the attacks on the child. What exactly should parents do? Regardless of whether the comment is fair or not, you should be grateful for it. If the child is really to blame, you can add an apology and walk away with the baby. Under no circumstances start scolding your child in front of strangers. If he is guilty, reprimand him in private, explain what he was wrong about and what is better to do in such situations. If, in your opinion, the remark is unfair, you can draw the child’s attention to the fact that all people are different, and what some people like, others may not like. If you think the remark is unfair, tell your child about it, emphasize that you think wrong. Is there any point in discussing something with the person who made the remark? I don't think it will bring any benefit to you or the child. The one who made the remark is often irritated and ready for an argument. Do you need this debate? If you feel the need to publicly protect your child, do it correctly.